ok all the teen pregos on under 34 forum

are killing me!!!  I want to squeeze each ones life out!!!  ok venting venting venting

[diva_lorri]

im preggo now but strangely enough I think Id rather still talk on here with my girls!
how young are we talkin? doesnt it aaannnnooooyyyyy you! aahhhh contraception people, hhheeelllooooooo!!!!!!!!!

[melimeli]

16 and even a 13 ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh and so many scared they are pg.. even one asking for advice on an abortion!!!  goddddd

[LJ307]

Yes, it frightens and annoys me.  What is going on in our world!  I heard on the news recentely that teen pregnancy has risen in the past year by something like 30%?    

[Diane1003]

I wish I could be honest and post responses to these young girls asking what the **** they're thinking!!!  I did see one the other day - where a 16 yr old was TTC and people were posting she had her whole life in front of her and to consider waiting...  The forum is open to anyone, but it sure makes things difficult for those who have a difficult time conceiving!

[nutmegg]

i have to say i think i have been spoiled at this forum.  I posted a question (essentially what to expect on the 1st prenantal visit) on the under 34 forum and had people jump all over me and I think for the most part none of them were legal to vote.  From now on I will always come back here to post my questions and concerns - the people are so much nicer here and much better informed.

[melimeli]

people are a lot nicer on the over 35 forum than the under 34

[Helen72]

Yep, teen pregnancies are up because of the abstinance programs replacing sex education in high schools.  This was expected....

[diva_lorri]

i live in australia and we have teenage girls getting pregnant just to get the $5000 baby bonus the government gives every woman when you give birth. these children are getting pregnant so they can buy a car or a plasma tv. they seriously have had young woman on the news (stories/ investigations etc) who are getting pregnant just to get the money. I think the gvt has wised up and now gives it in installments though.
i mean my dh and I are finally expecting (after a long battle ttc) and are certainly going to get the money thats offered but it is no way what made us decide to start ttc! do these girls realise a baby is forever.... its more cost than just nappies and setting up a nursery... its food, education, college etc etc... makes me angry I tell ya
!!!!!

[LJ307]

Urg. That is maddening!  I know we shouldn't look to Hollywood for examples, but lots of young people do.  With Jamie Lynn Spears, and that actress can't recall her name, but she played Mary in a Mary & Joseph story a year or so ago.  Anyhow, she was just 15 when she got preg. and 16 when she gave birth.  Yikes!!

[gokuangel]

i agree w/you all 150%!!!!!!!!! i thought i was the only one this drove mad!! my sister in law is 20 and she had the 2nd baby at 19!! and my cousin in laws GF is 16 and barely had her 2nd baby a month ago and she does not have her son her mother does!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i guess she wont have her daughter soon enough either and she ll find another guy to impregnante her.  my sister in law though she is a good mom!!

[boosty]

scares me too cause i have a 3year old daughter and this is my worse fear

[hottie069]

I was 17 when i first fell pregnant, and i wouldnt change a thing, i am 22 and now have 2 children and another on the way and i am very happy with the way i have planned my life, not all young pregnancies are mistakes, mine was actually planned as i wanted children young, and i wouldnt have it any other way, dont know why it makes you so angry really, i think the only reason you are angry is because some of you have difficulty concieveing, it will happen for you all im sure, but my point is that not all young people are after all they can get ie money, sometimes it is the route in life they wish to take and one that i chose, when i reach 35 (which isnt very old) my children will be growing up nicely and i can start to plan my life and know that i have a lovely family behind me that i raised on my own, and that is something to be proud of! Good Luck To You All xx

[boosty]

yeah, but you have to stop being so naiive and understand that just because you knew what you were doing, doesnt mean that 99% of these teenagers at 16 years old know what they really want. even with my first child at 24years old, i went to fertility doctor cause i really wanted a baby, but even then i didnt know what i really was going to be expecting. so i am pretty sure most cases, these teeens are being stupid. youre just a lucky one.

[LJ307]

I wonder though at 17 how were you able to support yourself and a child financially?  Most of these girls will be on welfare, aid for dependent children and other goverment programs which means us tax payers are supporing these babies.   It isn't because we are jeolous that we can't concieve (conceive) easily and these girls can.  It's that we are mature enough to understand the responsability and demands a child brings into ones life.  I'm in my 40's with a career and am unsure how I'm going to support a child, pay for daycare, rent, food, gas etc.  I think it is very insensitive of you to accuse us women on this forum of being upset because we can't concieve (conceive).  

[HeathJo]

I respect everyone's right to live their own life, and their right to express concerns or opinions.

What I do not understand is why you are reading and posting on this forum, since you have 2 kids and one on the way.

I also don't understand your username, "Hottie" and "69". It is a bit hard to take you seriously.

[LJ307]

Ditto to HeathJo's comment.

[boosty]

loooooooooooooooooooooool. good job heathjo

[susanelizabeth]

Ive never actually looked at the under 34 forum, I didnt realize there is one!  It is ashame that these girls are getting pregnant before they are ready and are so scared.    It just isnt fair that that happens and women who would make terrific moms have trouble.  It just doesnt seem fair.

[worriedandscarednow]

Hey all. I know that you are all frustrated with young people getting pregnant. And yes, I happen to be one of those "teens" (I'm 19) that are ttc. However, I did not take lightly to my decision to conceive with my husband. I have been planning to have my first child ever since that evening that I was raped three years ago. Back then I didn't really have a choice, but I wasn't going to give up on that child, even if it meant that I had to look at that memory every day. But you know, I lost her at eight months preggo because the jerk pushed me down the stairs. I have made a budget up and I have established plenty of room for a child. I have been planning for a long time. Since I discovered that I have PCOS, I realized that I might not be able to have a child at all now. After the m/c, I stopped having periods all together, and really wasn't sure why. Now that I know I started asking my gyn all of the questions that were very hard to ask, and he had a little trouble answering. I just want to say to you ladies, that I know that you all are right about how many teen pregnancies end in such tragedy. But From this teen, much planning and much bad answers have come my way. For three years I have had a lot of cysts on my ovaries, and my gyn has told me that its crunch time. I've got maybe a year, or two of fertility before the cysts that I have look dangerous. There are some cysts that he is watching very closely, which could mean that I have less time than that. Ovarian cancer runs through my family, so I'm kinda scared that I'll get it before I conceive. That is why I have planned to have the child that we are trying for. I know that that seems to be a sob story, but you know, I'm not defending the teens out there that are ruining their lives, I'm defending the select few of them who are actually in a situation where it is a good place to bring a child into the world, and for those teens that have done so with very descripive and strict planning.

All of you ladies are a blessing to me. I didn't even know that there was a different room based on age :)

For those that might wonder why I chose the name worriedandscarednow, here's the scoop on that: I'm worried that because of my health issues I'll never make it to the age of thirty, this scares me because my family has a really bad history of the symptoms in which I have that are from PCOS. Thus, I'm worriedandscarednow because I am afraid that I'll leave this world not being able to bring a life into it. I'm afraid that I would be something that is less of human. But that is what my name means to me, and that is why I'm ttc.

May god bless the women on this forum, that through the testing times of life, they may have strength, wisdom, love, compassion, and faith. May the ladies here be blessed with goodness and tenderness, and most of all, friendship.

You ladies are such an inspiration to me. May God bless you all.
Karen.

[izzys_mom]

Ok, I can respect what worried says, she is planning, she is at least thinking about her future and thinks she's doing the best thing for it, that's good.
But I totally agree, I have stopped going to the 34 and under just because it makes me want to scream! I'm glad there are women there who are helpful and patient with all the teens, but I am not one of them, at least not right now.
Glad I'm not alone!!!

[LJ307]

I'm worried that you feel being childless makes you "less than human".  Having a child in no way validates your life and existence just as being childless doesn't invalidate a persons existence.  We have lots of purposes for being in this world, being a parent is just one of many.  I'm sure you are important to lots of people who are grateful you are in this world.  

Please understand that most of us are referring to teens who are still in highschool, are not married, and do not have support from the childs father financial or otherwise. It sounds like your life is in place where you are prepared for having a child.    

Additionally, I'm not aware the PCOS shortens your life span?

[boosty]

pcos does nto shorten your life span. i am 27 with pcos so when should i expect to die?

[no116]

look im not a teen but i was and i also didnt have help from my babys father....but i raised my cild just like any other women... i think your made because girls younger then you who you feel dont deserve to have a kid are and your to old to have another or somthing... stop talking about people when each sitc is different not all girls r sluts

[kele1129]

I am sure no one was called a ****, but there is no reason why, in this day and age that young people cannot simply use protection. Against STD's and pregnancies.  And yes I at the age of 30 do have problems seeing young (teens in school) having children. I am not angery at them just miffed.  If they feel responsible enough to have sex then they should fully be aware of the consequences of their actions. While I know that sometimes protection fails (my mother was on the pill and my father was weraing a condom, they were both high as a kite and here I am 30 years later), there is no reason to not use it if you do not want to conceive.