please help me understand

i have been trying for a babie for a year now i no im young im sick of people telling me but i ot a good job a home and a fiance of three years who also has a good job we have liv ed together for a year now and decided we was ready and i soooo feel ready but a year later nothing i have had my 1st lot of tests my ovulation and hormones and there fine my partner is now having his tests done but the doctor says it looks good but that doesnt help my longings sitting up all night sobbing imagining being a mom it makes me so down and distant i even feel low when i see a pregnant women and how come all my freinds are pregnant at the same time and i feel like they rub it in they send me pictures of there scans and dont shut up about it but then i realise i wud be worse they dont relise that i sob every time i hear it all i wanna no is is this normal and have u been thru it have u got ne advice on this and to help me concieve (conceive) thankyou xxxxxxx hannah xxxxxxx

[tina1111]

Are you charting or using opks to pinpoint ovulation? If not that would be a good place to start. If you are and still not conceiving, it is time to see an RE. I wish I hadn't listened to people tell me I was young and had plenty of time. I started ttc at 18 and am still childless at 42. I wish I had more options when I was 20. Definitely see a specialist and get some answers. (((hugs)))

[hannah1505]

i used ovulation sticks for a couple of months but it stressed me out to much i have an active sex life and i no the ryt times to do it we are in the process of our tests myn hormone and ovulation tests have come back clear i have got to have a camara into my womb next nice but i would do anything i have always said if somone offered me all the money in the world and a  chance of conciveing the following month id wouldnt take the money im so down though its untrue thats why im on her a lil bit of support all my freinds keep saying im too young but i no im ready and my parnter is and thats all that matters how long have you been trying to conceive and how does it make you feel month to month i  carnt imagine when my test came back clear i cried not for myself but for people who had they same test but they did not get my result xxxxxx

[hannah1505]

need advice lol carnt sleep xx

[Helen72]

Unexplained infertility is the worth.  I lived with it for 2 years till my surgery finally revealed what was wrong.  I was so happy they finally found the reason behind all negative pregnancy tests.  Since you have been trying for a year, you may consider some treatments, like clomid or IUI.  If you are serious about treating infertility you may want to see an RE (reproductive endocrinologist), i.e. infertility specialist.  They can suggest the best treatment given your age and other circumstances.

Good luck!!

[hannah1505]

im under the hospital just waiting for my partners results then we can take the next step as most people i hate waiting its the upset and sleepless nights getting to me what was the matter with you if you dont mind me asking did they fix the problem?? my freind only ovulated once every 12 to 18 months and she got court thats amazing im ovulating as far as i no every month i use the testing kits xxxx wb

[Helen72]

I had a complication from an old surgery from almost 20 years ago that was preventing conception.  If you never had a surgery you don't have to worry about that.  However, if you have very painful periods, you can ask your doc about endometriosis since it's a treatable condition.

[hannah1505]

but what is that ive heard about it but carnt remember i used to have dreadful pain mid cycle but i dont any more and my docs sed tere is nothing to worry about i have had my bllod tests there fine my scan was fine and my internal i do have a tilted womb that runs in the family i do get a lot of twiching recently in my lower stomach its very uncomftable xxxx wb

[illsurvive]

i can understand ur feeling. Every month i feel that i ll not get period but always it comes!!!!!!!!!!! i work groccery store n many ladies come there those are pregnant n many cut baby come there i get so depressed that why i dont!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i jus want one. i harmone came normal too n mu hubby as well. I would say have test jus for ur satisfaction that everything normal. I m seeing this month other wise i would have also all test.
i have also sleeping disorder i can sleep even i want to. i got gastritis jus because i m worrying too much. when i sleep i dream that i have baby. n all those things n wake up i got so depressed.
But i have faith in god. So jus have faith in god i ll give u ur baby for sure some times it takes time. as my gyne told me.

[hannah1505]

i sob and sob i dream to i wud drather stay in my dream to be honest y not us ay i hate is i pray to i wud do anything to make my dream come true and every month it gets further away i feel my life is pointless if i carnt have a child i no i sound stupid but i hope  someone nos how we feel lol and i expect they do it kills me to look at a baby and see a pregnant womon i imagine how happy there are and how i wish and lon that i dont have m period xxxxxxx

[Itlyncutie87]

I am with you 100%, everyone I know it pregnant and NOT me. I don't understand either. I  got pregnant it December and had a miscarriage in February. It was the HARDEST thing I have ever gone though. And I also understand what you mean when people say you are TO young to have a baby. And I just tell them that this is what I WANT. I know it won't be easy but I have a great husband and a great family that will help us though the way. We have been TTC for about a year also. I would say buy an OPK. And that helps out  a lot. Best of luck to you hun and try not to worry to much. Better said then done : )

[hannah1505]

i do my ovu lation test already im not married yet im holding my poor fiance off because i always wanted my 1st child there uts what i want sooooo im waiting but saving even mire money we have started buying things for our nursey even got a bigger place i snuck a sunbed in for me tho loool and to al the people who think were to young were old enuf to make our own decisions and i belive a womans body tells them there ready and i sooo am and as for not worrying the more i try not to the more i do lol i no itll happen deep down its gotta good luck to u 2 xxxx

[jbrooks39]

how young are you anyway???

[hannah1505]

20 21 in two weeks y ??

[4Angie]

You are not too young!  I would suggest like the other ladies did to see a RE.  If not a RE, maybe you want to talk to your GYN to start.  You say people say you are too young.  I have people say I am too old.  :)

[hannah1505]

thanx 4 comment i apprciate every ones help and support i need it xx

[Itlyncutie87]

Exactly! We are OLD enough to live on our own then why the hell not have a child if that's what WE want. Best of luck to you girl and let me know when you do get pregnant!!! And yes it is def. HARD not to worry!!!! xoxo

[hannah1505]

yep i will do and u do to :-) good look to you to xxxxxxxxx spk soon

[hannah1505]

or support thats evem better lol xxxx

[gokuangel]

I have been or guess should say i still am in your shoes. i got married the first time when i was 20 and i been wanting a baby every since but almost 7yrs later and remarried not mention i still cant get prego so i feel ya; if you are ready go for it!! If you can afford a doctor get all the tests done you need; this is my problem i cannot afford a doctor hopefully in one year the sooner the better i know cus i cant wait anymore. Dont listen to people listen to your heart and what u want; peeps been saying that oh your so young **** to me 4ever even now when im fixing to be 27!! They never stop trust me. We're all here for support and i definetly feel ya so if u need to message me thats totally cool!!

[hannah1505]

all my help is free my doctor is helping me where are u from i have been ofered free ivf if i donate my eggs to someone as mine are healthy  wb xx

[gokuangel]

I live in TX.  Thats great i would love to have free help!! Go for it and dont listen to others. Do what you want. I feel the exact same way as you i feel my life is pointless if i cant conceive and have a child its totally crazy i know but i so feel like im stuck in rut like im know im turning 27 but i feel like im turning 20 because i have no children.  I dont know if its this but it sure feels like it. My sil is 6yrs younger than me already has 2 kids and i see her as older than me. Shes been married to my DH's brother longer than me and my DH have and started having kids at 17!! Shes gonna be 35 w/an 18 and i ll be 35 w/my baby going to kindergarten!! its all crazy to me.

[hannah1505]

i no its tuff and i no im young but i do feel for u i really do but we gotta keep strong i belive im gonna be a mom and i belive im going to get pregnant while im 21this is my lucky yr i no it its so difficult and me and my partner sit and dream and hope and its so close but at the same time so far away i mean i love my baby so much but its not even egsisting its so close but i carnt toutch it yet then u get people popping them out here there and every where who dont deserve them but ppl like us i belive we will get it and you are still young !!

[hannah1505]

i feel positve but down at the same time thanx for all ur help xx

[myheartgoes2allu]

I feel exactly what our going through. I met my husband when I was 19  when I was 25 we deceided to have a baby. 4 IVF, 3 Donors. 36 now and  have no kids :(.

[hannah1505]

have u any rthing wrong with u or ur partner?? what donners do u need xx

[myheartgoes2allu]

Sorry, my english is not good but I will try to explain. It is me, my husband is healthy. Had surgery to open block tubes, right tube 10% open got ectopic pregnancy, removed right tube. Left tube block. 1st donor did not past blood test. 2nd donor had cysts took a year for the cyst to go away and only produce 3 follicles, cycle got cancelled. 3rd Donor had 7 follicles only 5 fertilized. 2 egg transfered 5 day blscyst have. HCG  test on 5/27/08 on Tuesday. The first three days I had cramping and now I have no symtoms (symptoms) exept breast tender that was before the transfer. I had heartburn 2nd and third day after transfer. I am nervous and prepare for the result. Donor usually would produce more follicles but I am happy that I got to this point. I hope that I will get pregnant this time. The cramping I had went away I don't know if it is a good thing or bad thing. My two week wait seems to be forever. Me and my husband love kids.  Thank you for posting.

[hannah1505]

thats ok good look to u i got a week and a half left yet before i can test so i just started my wait good luck xx

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