pregnacy

hi my name is cesarina and im 19 years old i have a 21 year old boyfriend and he have been trying to have a child for about 5 years now and nothing happends my doctor tells me that i have no problems on getting pregnant but i see 5 years way too long with no response. I had 2 sist in my ovaries about 1 year ago but they were removed so i dont know if this contributes to the fact that i have not been able to concieve (conceive). what should i do...

[BabyBlue07]

This is out of my concern as woman to woman.  I worry for you because you are so young and have so much life to live.  

You said you are 19 yrs old and your bf is 21.  he tried to have baby 5 yrs now, which means he was 16 when he wants a baby.  What can a 16 yrs old boy do if he did have a baby?  Are you with him since then? Don't you think its odd?  19 yrs old and you still have bright future ahead of you.  Don't throw your future away just because your bf want a baby.  You need to think for yourself.  "do i want a baby now?" "how do i support my baby?" "can I provide my baby a good home?"  If you want a baby to please your bf, then i think it's a wrong decision and it's unfair for a baby.  they do not ask to be born and later in life they have live in rough life because you can't take care of them.

You and your bf, how stable do you think you guys are?  How long do you know each other? What does he do for living? Professional job? or just a daily job to survive paycheck by paycheck?  I do not mean anything, but we are woman and when we are thinking to have a baby, we need to look into our financial.  does your husband or bf have a stable job?  can he support the baby? and so on....To bring a baby in this world, your responsibility to raise, provide, and protect a child.  

To me, I think you should go back to school and earn your college degree, then have a baby.  It's not too late to have baby when you are in your mid-twenty.  That's way you can support your baby.  You never know what will happen in life.  right now you are much in love and feel everything is eternity, but then life changes, things changes, and people change.  

I am 37 years old and what i wrote here is out my concern for you.  Of course this is your life and you can do whatever you want to.  But I will feel bad if I do not say anything.  I hope you forgive me if I said something offend you.  

Take care