stress

Hello All!!
          I have not been on here in a long time. I have been trying to accept the fact that I might not become a mommie. This is a long hard road to travel for me as is for all of you. My hope has disappeared and my faith has faltered but I still believe there is a chance. The REs say I need IVF b/c I have unexplained infertility and they can't find anything wrong with me or DH. We do not have that kind of money and most likely never will and adoption is not an option for us for other reasons. I am struggling with the questions of do we wait and see what happens or go in debt for IVF. I don't know how to make that decision.  I am also a very stressful person and I don't know how to change that(which the baby thing doesn't help either). I do yoga everyday but still feel stressed. Do anyone know what I can do to relieve some of this stress. Any answers and/or opinions will be greatly appreciated.  Thanks!!!!!!!

[hmaine]

Oh man, Nia, I am in the same boat as you with stress. I love my job, yet it can be stressful and, moreover, I just never have handled stress that well. I'm trying to exercise daily. That's the only thing that seems to take the edge off and I have to really push and exhaust myself. I'm also trying to meditate more often, which helps me catch myself when I'm stressing myself out. I want to try acupuncture at some point, as I've heard good things about that too.

It feels so impossible sometimes. TTC isn't something you can just "forget about" and "let happen" as people unfamiliar with it tell you to do. I mean, you gotta be paying attention to when it's time to BD at the very least! I'm not yet at the IVF decision- we're about to have a HSG and am thinking we'll try IUIs after that- but I am wondering: don't some IVF places refund your money if you don't get pregnant and offer payment plans? That would make it worth some debt for me, although I know your financial situation may be different.

[My_Angel]

I really don't even know where to start with fighting stress I recently had my tubes removed only to have to push my ivf back for unexpected cost for additional procedures that my doctor didn't inform me of. So now instead of me stressing n crying daily for not being able to conceive I now stress myself out for removing my tubes because now I'll never be able to get pregnant without ivf in away I feel I let God down by removing them so I pray for forgiveness but it's not a day go by that I don't cry about TTC I had my tubes removed july31st n have had two periods since both in august two weeks apart n the only found reason fir my period being off balance is STRESS. I have no answer just wanted to say you are not along n I'm gonna try exercising. Thanks for sharing.


Angel