trying desperately to get pregnant

We have been trying for almost 3 years now, my partner has now moved into his mum' s because we are having problems and are constantly rowing as i cannot concieve (conceive)... Its destroying what we have and i don't know what to do. Its not helping when family members and friends are becoming preganant. My partner is 27 and has no children,I have 2, one 13 and  7 years old. I am nearly 32 and i am so desperate to have another baby, I can't give him what he desperately wants an I know in the end i will lose him to someone who can.. am i too old to keep on trying? should i just give up? Is their anybody out there that can advise me please?

thanking you in advance x

[Quinns momma]

Have you both gone for a fertility workup? Has he provided a sperm sample? It is very possible the issue is with his fertility and not yours.    Many women also experience secondary infertility. Which means although they had children previously they now are unable to get pregnant.

No, you are not too old to keep trying. I was 31 when I gave birth to my daughter and I am now 34 and pregnant with a little boy.

[snooglebeans]

No way are you too old to continue trying.  You're only 32...that's young!!

I'm really sorry that this is causing you to have problems with your partner.  Trying to conceive, and not having luck, can put a lot of strain on a relationship.  It's difficult to deal with so much disappointment.  If your partner is really important to you, I'd try to make your first priority working things out and making things better between the two of you.  

The other thing is..you've already had two children so, as far as we know, your parts work perfectly.  Has your partner been checked out?  I think it's pretty important, since he has no children of his own, to make sure that his sperm count is ok and that the other semen parameters (motility, morphology) are normal.  Would he be willing to do this?  

And if you haven't had a fertility work-up, I'd suggest doing that too.  Have your day 3 hormone levels checked and you should also ask the doctor to have an HSG (where they make sure there are no tubal blockages and that your uterus is ok).  

Good luck with everything.  You aren't alone!!

[lilyanne2010]

thank  you , for replying.. I started going for fertility treatment, I had a scan to make sure my bits where ok, and was meant to go for the blue dye thing they do .. but cancelled as we fell out and he moved back home to his mum's.. It causing me great concern as I don't know what to do!

I have taken drastic measures and even bought clomid online, but unfrotunately am too afraid to take this in case it causes me some damage that I cant repair or medical help cant!

I have asked him to go and have the sperm thingy but he refuses as he has been able to concieve (conceive) ( as i have miscarried and previous girlfriends have been pregnant to him, but other things got in the way and unfortunately, he hasn't been able to have his own child yet)

I love him to bits and he loves my two children but he just wants his own flesh and blood,sorry if i have gone int too much detail.. feel as though I am losing a no win battle.. soo depressed at the moment !!

Once again thank you for all the advice

xx

[melon3]

Hi,
    I am sorry that you are in this situation. I believe your DH should try an sa.. Here is my story in brief... I have one daughter who was conceived very quickly. We have been trying for our second for over a year. My DH had  2 sa's done and they have both revealed that he has a problem, as a result we are seeing an RE next month. What I am saying is sperm changes over time. Your DH may have been able to conceive in the past but that maybe different now. Im living proof of this!

hope that helps and good luck to you

[lilyanne2010]

thank you so much for the replies! really do appreciate all your advice!

will try out all your adbice and hopefully, fingers crossed i can post back :) x