trying to conceive after miscarriage

My husband and I have been trying to conceive a third child for 11 months now. When our second baby was 9 months I got pregnant then miscarried at 8 weeks. It has now been another 5 months with no luck. We went to our doctor the other day to get some insight into what we could do differently or better to be successful and basically came home feeling stupid and that we wasted everyone's time. My cycles are very long and somewhat irregular, anywhere from 32 to 40 days. I've been charting my temperatures to check for ovulation (which our doctor said was a waste of time), we've been having sex every other night starting at around day 15 of my cycle through ovulation (the doctor said that was entirely too often, and just ridiculous to do) and I've been using ovulation predictor kits, but this past month never got an LH surge, although my temperatures said I did ovulate. Our doctor's best advice was to use OPKs and take the next month off (which seems a bit counterproductive to me as NOT trying to conceive doesn't seem like the best way to get pregnant). Besides changing doctors, anything else we should or could be doing to help?

[Super_sally888]

Hi,

I think your doctor brushed you off a bit.

I'd want to know for sure that you are ovulating. They can do blood test towards the end of your cycle to check that.  I'd also like to see them check your hormone levels and also check that there's no male factor going on (ie. sperm analysis for hubby).

Frequency of sex:-  If you and Hubby enjoy every second day I'd say there's no reason not to.  It definitely won't hurt.  Otherwise I'd still say at least every 3 days.  Maybe starting a bit earlier than day 15.

I wouldn't take a month off?  What just don't have sex! Hmmm.... no clear reason for that.  Uniless you just enjoy sex when you both feel like it and try not to think about conceiving or otherwise... :)


How old are you and hubby?  If you are older than 35 I'd be wanting a referral to a fertility Dr. already for the appropriate checking...