very scared and confused about Beta

Girls so the mystery continues....I am so confused and desperately need advice.  This morning I went to have my second beta b/c I've been 9 weeks without af after D and C on June 19th.  My first Beta was 18 last Tues.  The nurse calls and tell me that my beta is going up like it is supposed to but the doctor wants me to come and have my blood drawn again on Friday morning to make sure my numbers are doing what they are supposed to.  She tells me it is 25...I respond by telling her it should be going down which I think really confused her...she checked my chart again and said no it's going up.  I asked her if I could be pregnant she said that's why my doc. wants to take my blood again on Fri.......WHAT?????????

I am so nervous and of course I know going from 18-25 in a week isn't good.  I had spotting on Aug. 9th and 10th.  I had sex the week before several times..could I be like 2/3 weeks pregnant?  Aren't your numbers supposed to double every 2 to 3 days...please help!

[wanting4#1]

Awww, you poor thing!  I wish that I had something that would clear this right up for you!  I remember when I was pg and they were calling me with different numbers everyday, it seemed.  It made the whole thing worse!

If the number is going up, I would have to think it means that you are pg......but the numbers are supposed to double every 2-3 days so I would wait to see what the re-check tells you...those will be the important numbers.  I would think that they would want you to come in on Thursday, but maybe there's a reason for waiting an extra day (my RE tested me every 2 days...)

[ashort]

yeah...I'm sooooo confused!  This is really wearing on me.  My husband and I just got in a fight..he thinks I can "think" my HCG numbers up.  I wish I could I would think them higher...haha.  I know the numbers are low but I'm not sure why they are going up and not down...it doesn't make any sense.  If I was pregnant it would either be from the first week of Aug. or from the 17th of August...hmmmm

[kellym]

Well, you're situation has me sooo intrigued I can hardly stand it... Did you happen to take a test? Every minute of every day must seem so long until Friday gets here. I hope you will be able to find out the results Friday night?

[Brown Eyed Gurl]

Ashort I'm so sorry this is happening to you......I know your poor brain is going a million miles an hour and you are probably stress not knowing weather to get excited about a new pregancy or stressed about a never ending MC.....I hope that very soon you get some answers that make sence.

[ashort]

You guys are right I am sooo stressed.  My FH (if you know what I mean) is driving me crazy. Istead of being supportive he keeps saying, "All I asked was for you to have a period."  He really hurt my feelings last night.  He keeps saying my thinking about being pregnant would keep my nmbers up..possible????  It just seems like the never ending m/c.  No matter what I know so much that I know the numbers don't look good...but they don't make ANY sense...and to make matters worse I got a call from his nurse not him...I went from 18-25 in onw week...not good.  You guys remember I said i had spotting on the 9th and 10th..could that have been implantation bleeding from maybe the week before?  No real symptoms...thanks for  listening..  

[wanting4#1]

I understand all of this...but I don't think that you could really raise your hcg levels by thinking or stressing or even obsessing!  I do think it's all odd and hard to grasp!  But I think you would do yourself a favor to try to do something fun and relaxing and get your mind off of it (yeaaaa, right!! I know ...)

And my dh becomes fh during all of this, too :)

The one thing that you may do is call the doc to see if you can get in tmw, instead of Fri!?!  I don't know if they'd go for that, but it never hurts to ask, right?

[ashort]

My Dh is definately FFFFFFFH....I think it's because he had his heart broken...and doesn't want it to happen again...In any event he just went on and on about how I haven't been the same since the m/c and he thinks I need to speak to someone.  To be honest with you I'm feeling better.  The only thing that is bothering me is the wait and my numbers...but yesterday I went to school and worked on my classroom...I'm eating...sleeping...functioning like usual...I'm a little weepy but that just started this week.

I think the doctor picked Friday b/c he wanted to give me more time...some of the things I've read say your numbers should double every 48-72 hours...maybe if I had implantation bleeding than I found out like 3 days after that so maybe he thinks it's REALLY early so my numbers aren't doubling yet??  I think I'm just going to call him....

[Brown Eyed Gurl]

I doubt to that stressing could make your #'s go up.  But I am wondering if this could be a new pregnancy since it has been so long since your MC.....but if so I don't think your #'s look promising. But I sure pray for your sake it is a miracle in the works.

[ashort]

thanks me too...this whole thing is just too much.  I thought I was getting a zero not a congrats your numbers went up and the doctor wants to see you on Fri to make sure they are going up the proper way...hmmmm

[miky72]

Hi ashort!
I'm the HCG expert in here..it took me 5 month to get back to zero after an ectopic in February and I'm going tomorrow (I hope for the last time)to check my Beta and make sure it stays at 0!!
In may my beta went from 29 to 38 in a week and we could not understand what was going on.
My RE told me that basically when there is such a minor difference between beta numbers is the same number..(he says that if you check your blood every 10 min you will get different number every time).
Since you were bding with your DH you might be pregnant and I think this is why they want to check you on Friday to make sure is not a "glitch" in the numbers.
Good luck and SSBD,
Miky

[vsentz]

LOL.... girl!!! (BIG HUG!!) hmmmm....let me just concentrate, levitate and think my own numbers up.....maybe that's the way to go!!! what??? do we need a man to get pregnant?? HELL NO! you need chinese concentration and you're knocked up!!!!!!!


Sweetie, you are right on being so upset with your dh.....(for d*ck head!), but they are so damn dumb sometimes it's not even worth it!.....try to explain to him how bad it hurts when he makes his comments and believe me! you are not the only one! i've been there!!!! they mellow down tho...=)

Lots of love your way!

[ashort]

vsentz...Oh my God you just made me laugh soooo hard!!!  It just sounds sooo stupid...then I get so flustered I start yelling out what HCG numbers are...ovulation stuff...it's actually really funny to think about.

miky..that makes me feel so good to know this..thank you so much.  I wish she'd had my doctor explain that to me...but I have though of another scenerio...okay tell me how crazy I am.  My numbers on 8/14 were 18...numbers yesterday 25...hey maybe I should play the lotto...haha.  Is it possible that my numbers went down to zero...b/c Sat, I thought I was o'ing..I even said to dh,,,I think I'm o'ing...so we had sex and he DIDN'T pull out...sorry TMI...maybe got pregnant on Sat and numbers are going back up from zero...possible or am I crazy????

Thanks everybody for all the help!

[tatorbug40]

I am sorry this is so stressful for you...  I lost a baby back in February.  My DH and I had been trying for more months then I thought we would have to try!  so we were so excited to finally be pregnant...  anyway, when I lost the baby I was a mess, and he was trying to be supportive...  but after a few weeks and all the STUFF we (women) have to go though, physically, etc... I think it was just too much for my DH, he just lost it one week, he wasn't himself, told me he just wanted to be left alone (with other choice words thrown in)--- it was just terrible... we have a great relationship, but it just go to be too much for him, he was stressed and hurt and upset by it all too, and I think just didn't want to talk about it because he wanted to be the "rock" for me...  it was so hard to get though...  about a month later we decided to take a trip together, just the two of us, we found this great resort in Mexico, our credit card wasn't happy about it...  but it was worth every penny...  we got so much closer and less then 3 months later I was pg again...  I know how hard this is for both you and your husband... maybe you can try to get get away somewhere, doesn't even have to be far away if you can't make a BIG trip out of it,  just to get it all off of your mind??  maybe??  good luck!  I can't wait to see what happens at your apt!

[ashort]

awww you almost made me cry....it's like the same thing between me and my husband he keeps saying I'm not the same as I was before the m/c...and I truly am trying.  I think all this extra HCG numbers stuff is just a cruel trick of nature.  I really blame my OB for never checking it!  DH is crushed...but he's not being very supportive right now.  He just keeps blaming me for not getting AF and he keeps saying if I am pregnant it's not healthy b/c we weren't supposed to get pregnant before I had my AF.  My Dh and I are going away for Colombus Day weekend...to a lake in Vermont.  I'm excited to get away.  I think we need it too!

[tatorbug40]

That trip will help a lot!  When I had my first miscarriage 5 years ago now, I had a d&c and went back in for a followup ultrasound 4 weeks later and there was still POC in my uterus...  they hadn't gotten everything during the D&C, I had to have a second one done...  man!  That was stressful,  so I know what you mean about the Hcg numbers being screwy, if they would just go back down and you would get your af then you could put it all behind you and start to try again!!!  It is very frustrating! And as far as if you are pg now, there are a lot of women who get pg right after they miscarry w/o having a period and have healthy pregnancies... I know it is not recommended, but it could be just fine!  Hang in there!  and have fun on your trip, it really will help!

[ashort]

You know my RE mentioned maybe leftover tissue from the D and C but I thought he would see that with the internal sono. and he didn't mention seeing anything.  I can't believe that happened to you...I'm so sorry you had to get another one...I can't imagine.  I just feel like this is the nightmare that never ends!!  Thank you for all your advice!
Amy

[miky72]

Amy,
hang in there!evrything is going to work out well .
waiting for your results on Friday...
Miky

[ashort]

I'll keep you posted..thanks again!