what to expect after ectopic??

[5preg2B]

I had surgery late saturday evening for an ectopic pregnancy..  This was my second m/c this year.  I don't know what to expect.  The dr took out my tube and pregnancy but I don't have any bleeding..  when will I start??  will I have severe cramping and how ling will it last??  I feel so alone as I write this.  I think it just hit me I lost another baby... the dr said I can try in three months..  I don't know if I can handle another loss..  This is the first I've cried since Saturday..  I expected to m/c as I was told I would..  so I thought I was prepared enough but how do I get through this...thanks for listening...

[tasha0918]

Hello, I too suffered an ectopic in Nov. It was my husband and I first child. We had been trying for awhile and a previous doc that we had lied to us and told us we were pregnant but he mixed our blood up with someone else's so we were never pregnant so when we finally got our BFP we were so happy and then I started spotting light at first then it got worse and I called my doc and they had me come in and while he was doing the scan he found out that the baby was in my tube and they rushed me to another hostipal that was able yo deal with it. When he told me want happened he was saying that I would have yo lose a tube and have surgery and I was balling my eyes out and my husband had to come take me to the other hostipal and it was the worst day of my life. I spent the whole day getting poked and prodded and I had to get the shot. Everyone

[Spoiled_married_mommy]

I had my Fallopian tube removed due to ectopic last week. My levels were 300 before surgery. Today, I took a hcg test and it was negative, then I took a ovulation test and it was positive. Could I be ovulating already? One week after surgery?

[heidisue78]

I just had my left tube removed last Sunday, have been spotting ever since but just started bleeding more...what seems similar to a period.  Needless to say, the turn of events has devastated me emotionally.  Physically, well it hasn't been as bad.  While pregnant, I was extremely fatigued but thought it was because I was older (just turned 36 and was 28 and 30 when I gave birth to my girls).  We were surprised to become pregnant as my husband has a pituitary gland tumor but were excited.  We had always wanted another child. My first ultrasound was originally scheduled on a Tuesday at 8 weeks but due to a snowstorm the appointment was rescheduled to the following Monday and then due to another was rescheduled to that Friday.  By the time I had my first ultrasound I was already 10.5 weeks.  It was then they discovered an empty gestational sac.  They did some blood work and on Saturday told me they suspected ectopic as my hcg was still at 14900.  I had been spotting since the ultrasound but had attributed it to the transvaginal that they did after the abdominal was not showing anything.  However, by Sunday morning I was feeling quite lightheaded, I called the doctor and told them I was not sure if I was just overtired but it did not feel right. They told me to go to the ER and after further lab work at the ER, they performed the surgery the same day. I was told that the tube had started to rupture.   I knew the spotting did not seem okay as there was red flakes like dark red dandruff in the blood but until I was told it was over, I kept trying to write off all they symptoms as being something minor.   I kept holding on to a thread of hope.  They could not get a picture of the tubes to show on the ultrasound so they had to open up both sides. They started on the right side and the baby was not there so then they tried the left tube and they found the baby in the tube and removed. Luckily, the surgery was laproscopic and I only lost a tube (no ovary) as they had said if all did not go well I may have had to lose the ovary as well and/or be opened up all the way which would be a worse recovery. My emotions are just all over the place right now.

[Laurenashleyt]

Your process and experince is just what i am going through. To the t. Thank you for sharing

[iKandee79]

Hi.  May I ask what was your outcome.  I am in that very same situation  right now.  2 months in he ruptured and my left side had to be remove my tube as well that 9/9/13.  My right side has been blocked since I was 21 and was trying.  Now after the removal I wonder if there is even a slim chance/miracle that it could even happen without IVF.  I have to be honest as bad as I wanted to be a mother I am totally scared of an etopic would happen again.  I am 34 soon to be 35 in march,  could my age be a factor ?

[msdimples555]

I had one too on March 19, 2013 but I didnt have any kind of surgry my dr gave me a shot on both sides of my hip. I can't think of the name of the shot but he told me that it was very affective. It took a week for my pain to start but when it did i couldn't move, walk or use the bathroom without any help from my husband. the dr told me that it could happen again but I'm ready to try again since he said that i am just as fertile but my cycle didn't start yet.

[emma2380]

hi there  i have had an etopic pregancy although to this day unsure what side was removed, i have scar on right if that means anything, had to have tube removed as had ruptered(7 weeks) i have found out yesterday that i am now pregnant, i have pcos, i have also had pain, awaiting results of blood tests and scared! but i managed to get pregnant just praying baby is settling in utus xx

[emma2380]

hi there  i have had an etopic pregancy although to this day unsure what side was removed, i have scar on right if that means anything, had to have tube removed as had ruptered(7 weeks) i have found out yesterday that i am now pregnant, i have pcos, i have also had pain, awaiting results of blood tests and scared! but i managed to get pregnant just praying baby is settling in utus xx

[zakn]

Congratulations.
I thought our story also can be shared here to help others in similar situation.
My wife is going to undergo surgery to remove her ruptured tube and subsequently the pregnancy will also be terminated eventually.
She also had a raptured tube in 2005 jan and removed and lost our first baby. Then we have been blessed by God with a daughter in 2006 sep and a son in 2008 july,both through natural conceiving  doctors said we are really blessed. She is 34years and Im 40 now.
However, now she is getting her other tube removed tomorrow by surgery and praying to God to give her mental and physical strength and make everything go normal.
We dont know if there are chances for getting pregnant naturally and want to know if we have to take any contraceptive to avoid getting pregnant.
But, we will be ever be thankful to God for blessing us with two lovely children.
We will also pray that your pregnancy is not ectopic and to give you good health and healthy baby. Good luck. Please do remember to pray for my wife.

[Danicao]

Hi again, I have posted a couple of times on this thread but wanted to share what is hopefully good news. In short here is my story. January 18th 2012 surgery for ruptured ectopic, lost a Fallopian tube too. Also found out my other tube is completely blocked so only chance if pregnancy would be through IVF. June 1st 2012 had a follow up appointment with the specialist and she said the chances of me falling pregnant are so slim it's not worth going back on contraceptives. It is now almost mid July and I just had a positive home pregnancy test, I had a feeling I was pregnant and was late so tested and sure enough. Now we have the anxious wait to check its not another ectopic  but I have a feeling all us ok, fingers crossed..... Just wanted to share as I know how difficult this is to go through and even if you have been told you can't have any more children naturally, miracles can and do happen. Best of luck to you all and I'll check back when it's confirmed my pregnancy isn't ectopic this time.

[zionsmommy13]

Hi ,
I am so grateful for this site. It is so good to know even though disappointing that so many other women went through this. I just had an Ectopic pregnancy  6 days ago. i didn't even know that i was Preggo. I knew that something wasn't right though. I had pain in my vagina and pelvic area and was spotting for a month.  My husband suspected a pregnancy but i was in denial.  We have been married for 11 yrs and had a  failed IVF a very early m/c 4 yrs ago so I kinda didn't believe we could do it. I  should've heeded the signs though because i was on a boat when i experienced the severe sharp pains and i also fainted. At the hospital test was positive. found out i was preggo but could be ectoptic . i was hopeful that a miracle could happen. i  was so excited to know that he had a strong heartbeat and was there for 9 whole weeks. they told me the dangers had to have an emergency op. found out he ruptured my right tube had to have it removed. my life just was a complete flash things happened so fast finding out he was there then he was gone. Seeing the photo of him was priceless he was already formed with his eyes and nose and feet so precious. he fought to be here but God knew best. Can't believe i  loved him so much already. Any way had no bleeding until the 4th day severe vaginal and abdominal pains the 5th day to release big clump of blood . only light pains and bleeding now. have appt with OB tomorrow. she says there is still hope with one tube so i will keep the faith. So sorry for the loss of so many women on here and i sincerely pray God's best for all of you as you heal and overcome this stage of your lives.

[cmajh2009]

i just had an ectopic pregnancy two weeks ago today, if anyone would like to talk about there experence i would to hear it. ***@****

[nwana52]

I had an ectopic pregnancy 7 years ago, which led to my right tube removed. It has been 5 days now im having pains on the side that had ectpic, i hv consulted doctors, they gave me pills which are not helping, i sleep 30minutes and wake up with pain that last 1 hour to 2 hours, im suffering PLEASE HELP

[Fbennett29]

I want to first thank everyone on here for being so honest about this. I just had an ectopic pg April 26,2012. I went to the doctor three times in one week and just kept feeling pain in my left side. The last doctor told me I had a UTI but knew it was something else so I asked here to do a pregnancy test and it came back positive that was on a Thursday. On Saturday I was bleeding went to the ER and they did a vaginal ultrasound and found out my pregnancy was ectropic they give me the two shots and sent me home. But didn't really explain how it worked. I endured four more days of pain went to my GYN and set up my surgery because I could not desk with the pain any longer. I have two kids already and I was not trying to get pregnant I know that it was a blessing from God for me even to get pregnant again due to so much scar tissue I have from my two previous C-section. I'm really sad because I feel like in just a seven day span I was give a baby only for him or her to be taken away. My kids are 17 and  9 but the guy I date don't have any kids in a way I feel I let him down. He's been supportive completely the good thing is that the doctor got to explain what was going to him. I just want you all to know that my heart goes out to you because it's very hard to understand and get over the list of a child no matter how it happens. I lost my right tube when the did the surgery but I still have my life. I'm depressed and I sometime cry just out the blue but I know every day will get better . My God bless you all and good luck. Just remember anything is possible if you put it in God's hand and for get about! Let him take care of it! Felicia B

[Jessicaep2]

They can't always find it early enough by serial hcg betas. I had my first ectopic oct 2011 and my 2nd March 2012. I am still recovering. Localized pain on just one side was MY indicator to seek out additional opinions. I was not listened to the 1st or 2nd time. The radiologist didn't put in my report what my ob said should've been seen. I am 22 years old and have lost both of my fallopian tubes. My 1st ectopic i had ZERO bleeding.. my 2nd... by the time i started bleeding it was too late. And with my hcg levels they both had doubled normal as they should have.. if you ever suspect ectopic and someone isn't listening i would highly suggest getting a 2nd and 3rd opinion

[TTC2006]

I just had an unexpected ectopic removed surgically on Friday.  I lost my right tube also.  We have been TTC for 5.5 years, and had 4 IUI's with success on the last one.  I had no symptoms of ectopic at all.  No pain, no bleeding, doubling HCG, started getting morning sickness, etc.  We had an early ultrasound because of the IUI, and that's when it was discovered.  It was a perfectly growing 6 week embryo, heartbeat and all, just firmly lodged in my right tube.  Because of it's size it had to be surgically removed, and because of the attempt to remove just the embryo the tube started to bleed out badly so I lost that too.  We have male factor infertility and need IUI or IVF to conceive, so I feel like this was a cruel joke and now the odds are stacked even higher against us.

Physically, my recovery has been good.  I started spotting 4 days after the surgery, and it is full flow now.  No major pain or cramping so far.  I need to have a HSG done to see how my other tube is before we can go back to TTC with treatments.  I expect that will be in another 2 or 3 months.

Emotionally I've been up and down.  Philosophical some of the time, and grief-stricken at other times.  I'm sure with the passage of time it will get better.  

My thoughts are with anyone who has to go through this.

[Mszmaul]

I had one dec. 28 2011 . My fiancé and I have just recently decided to try again but after reading all the stories from u guys I'm kinda scared to be honest .. When we were trying after our first two m/c I used to get sad every time af came to visit .... Two days after my birthday I found out I was pregnant but then when we went to see our baby it was there . I cried my heart out in his arms and he told me how he still had me and I had him and we could always try for another well wish me the best of luck.... #ttc

[betsabet]

thank you for sharing your story with us

[Danicao]

I'm so sorry for your loss, I too have 2 children already and have been told without ivf I can't have anymore. I would have loved a third but can't help feeling I'm being selfish, considering others have no children. People often say to me, "well at least you have 2 already" believe me I am very grateful for them but does that mean I can't grieve for the one I just lost. My surgery was just over 2 weeks ago, I had another appointment on Friday with my gyne and she said she went in looking for endometriosis or cancer which she suspected based on symptoms I've had for a few years, got no answers for that and still have more testing ahead and by chance found the ectopic and it had ruptured the day of surgery :( lost my left tube and right is totally blocked, very little chance of falling pregnant, and about 90% chance of it being ectopic again if I did :( it's so hard to accept and I too feel o have no one talk to. Please give yourself time and give those children of yours some extra cuddles, best of luck and please let us know how you go. Mel

[angelbella6198]

Your story sounds basically the same as mine. the only thing is I knew something was wrong for 2 weeks and know one wanted to listen to me. I had to pass out before anything was done. So I ended up having the chemo shot, passing out, having the surgery and having my tube out in the end. This all happened to me last week. I feel so alone. I'm also sick of hearing everything will be okay from my husband an some others. It won't be okay. I won't have my baby on September 12 and I won't get my tube back, that's not okay. I do have two children already. So when I grieve I feel ashamed. Do I have the right? some women aren't able to have any children? I also fear that I will never be able to grow another child inside of me again because I am damaged. I feel like I have know one right now, not even my husband.......He's getting ready to go watch the super bowl tonight......that's what's on his mind!

[meet198]

Hi All,

Heres my experience with my 1st pregnancy after 2 yrs of trying which was Ectopic. The reason I write in detail is mayb someone might find something of help here.

On 8th of Jan I had excruciating pain in lower abdomen and back and started spotting. Thought I was going to have a period. After 2 days no period, was still spotting. Googled my symptoms n they suggested I mayb pregnant. Did HPT on 11th Jan which came out positive. A few seconds later I started bleeding wid lower left abdominal pain. I thought i was miscarrying n went to A & E. They did a BHCG Test and scan. Scan revealed no sac and HCG came back 669. They asked me to repeat HCG in 2 days. Bhcg on 13th Jan came back at 1293 which had doubled as shud hav. I was told it looked like a very viable pregnancy and come bak for a scan in 4 days. We were so happy that day.

Scan on 18th Jan failed to reveal a gestational sac. They did another BHCG which came bak at 1930..not a good sign. The suspected either a failing pregnancy or ectopic. Another BHCG scheduled on 20th and a couple more stressful days.

Blood test on 20th Jan came bak 2100 n scan was suggestive of ectopic. Dr. suggested laporoscopy and removal of the tube. They did not suggest methotrexate as it wud mean 6 months of waiting to try again. Was taken in surgery same day 20th Jan. During surgery they found the ectopic on the end of the left tube(fimbliar region). They think it was a natural spontanoeous tubal abortion which had tried to keep growing by clinging to the end. They could remove it without harming the tubes. That is the only positive out of this n we consider ourselves lucky.

After surgery I dont have much pain from the surgery wounds. However I have had extreme cramping and bleeding with clots and grey tissue since last 2 days. The bleeding n pain has gone down today...day 3. BHCG on 23 Jan dropped to 300 from 2100. Nurse says to do a HPT which should come back negative in a weeks time.

Saw my Gynac today the 24th Jan. Feel much better after talking to him. He was able to discuss my surgery wid us. Said I can try after my first period. Shud b able to concieve. Did tell me I m at a higher risk of ectopic. Told me even a lap n dye test cannot always find tubal damage and rather we shud go ahead n try naturally for next 3-4 months. He did ask to monitor ovulation a period very closely to detect pregnancy asap n to go scan at the early pregnancy unit in case of a positive pregnancy for early detection of ectopic. He also suggested going for IVF in case of anoder ectopic or failing to concieve by may.

This experience has thought me a lot. I was able to get thru it sanely from reading countless blogs n forums on ectopic pregnancies. The many posts prepared me for what to expect n understand my case better. I hope everyone who is trying is blessed wid a successful pregnancy soon and keeping my fingers crossed for r journey from here on :)

[Danicao]

Hi there, I had ectopic pregnancy surgery 2 days ago (18 jan 2012) and I think I'm still in a state if shock. This is not what we expected to find, here is my story, I have 2 children, daughter almost 9 and son just over 6, I have had almost constant bleeding for the 6 years since my son was born, I had a d&c immediately after having him naturally and and another d&c about a year later with no help for the bleeding. After the bleeding didn't stop after trying 12 different types of contraceptive pills I was referred to a gyne to have a mirena placed (worst thing ever!!) itsde it so much worse. I know I should have seen another gp but have been going to her for 11 years and trusted her, anyway 2 weeks ago I had had enough I went in, broke down and told her what my life has been like, used to be a distance runner training 6 days a week to now struggling to get out of bed, constant lethargy and very moody, emotionally all over the place as well. I finally asked for a referral which I got and within a few days had an appointment with a very thorough gynaecologist. She listened to me for ages, examined me and looked at my ultrasound report ( I requested the ultrasound) and recommended surgery asap, in just over a week I was in surgery and was hopeful to finally get an answer to the cause of my bleeding, except on recovery the first thing she said to me was that I shocked her!! She found a ruptured ectopic pregnancy!!! Apparently it's common with having a mirena but now I feel lost, totally devastated that I've lost a baby, even though we weren't trying for one, but other than dysfunctional bleeding she can't explain my years of problems. I know I'm lucky they found the ruptured ectopic and that it can be dangerous but not only do I still not have any answers I now have lost a baby too and have been told if I want to have another we will need IVF, I feel so lost and sure from surgery.  I know I need time to heal but would love to hear from anyone with a similar experience. (I was expecting to be told I had endometriosis not an ectopic pregnancy) and yes I would love another baby but don't think I can put my family through that. Also, I had the mirena removed at the same time as surgery 2 days ago, I had a small amount of bleeding the daybif surgery but nothing since, my gyne said to expect heavy bleeding but when should this start, I'll ring her later too but wanted to ask in here of your experiences. Mel

[elanasmommy]

I'm sorry for your loss. You need to give your body the time it needs to heal. In 2007 I had an ectopic pregnancy. I was 8 wks, my left tube ruptured. They removed my left tube, part of my left ovary, and part of my right tube and told me i wouldn't be able to get pregnant, unless i did IVF for atleast a year. I went through all the emotions of loss, denial, depression, acceptance.....  In 2009 I gave birth to a 9 pound boy, without any fertility help. A Dr. can only give you his/her medical opinion, but they arent God. I'm sorry for everyones loss on this site. The most important thing you can do, is give your body time to heal.

[lvlygrl]

i had an ectopic pregnancy dec 21st 2011 and i am still having pain from the surgery i had ..it will be three weeks this wednesday jan 11th 2012 i am still very upset from this experience my left tube ruptured and i had to have emergency surgery spent the night in the hospital i remember when i got out of surgery the ob dr that did the surgery had showed me pictures of the ruputured tube and the baby i was still kida out of it from the meds they had me on i cant get the pics i seen out of my head i didnt even give permission to see them i dont remember much however the dr. wouldnt even tell my husband that i was out of surgery or anything that had happened for that matter unfortunately i had to be the bearer of bad news and tell my husband the took my tube and the baby ive been crying and very depressed ever since ...i had a m/c in november a few week prior to the ectopic ...my dr advised me not to have intercourse for at least one year sadly i cant get my husband to understand that if we were to have sex then it can cause severe damage to my organs but he dnt seem to care be cause he throws a fit like a toddler if he doesnt get his way what do i do ? i am so scared of this happening again ...