Having problems conceiving.

[Lucia07]

My husband and I both got test done for infertility and we both tested fine.  The problem is that we have tried for 8 months to get pregnant and still no luck.  I'm testing with the ovulation sticks and tracking my menstrual cycle.  I'm not sure what's wrong.  We're both 32 years old.  Some advice will be greatly appreciated.

[Forum-M.D.-SP]

There may not be anything wrong at all. Infertility is defined as failure to conceive after a year of unprotected intercourse, and there is a very good reason for the 'year' definition - the reason being that after one year of trying 85% of couples are pregnant, and of the 15% still not pregnant after one year, over half get pregnant within the second year. If you are still not pregnant after one year, you might want to see a reproductive endocrinologist. Couples with unexplained infertility are often treated by a combination of infertility drugs and intrauterine insemination (placement of sperm in the uterus). For women under age 35, my opinion is to give it the full year without any intervention - sometimes the drugs can actually have a negative effect on the ability to get pregnant by making the lining of the uterus (the endometrium) thinner than usual. On the other hand, they bring with them the risk of twins or even triplets, and the goal is not only to get pregnant, but to have a healthy pregnancy. Bottom line is that fertility drugs and insemination should be used if required, but I would recommend being sure they are required before using them - like all medications they have their pros and their cons. After a year of trying, the scale tips in favor of the pros outweighing the cons. Good luck!

[baby wanted]

HI I WENT THROUGH A SIMILAR PHASE WITH MY FIRST YEAR OF MARRIAGE. EVERY MONTH I TRIED HARD BUT NOTHING. I EVEN WENT TO SEE A DR ON THE 6TH MONTH BUT DR. TOLD ME TO TRY AT LEAST FOR A YEAR AND IF I DIDN'T GET PREGNANT AFTER 12 MONTHS THEN I SHOULD CONSIDER INFERTILITY. WELL THE THING WAS THAT AFTER 10 MONTHS, I DID GET PREGNANT WITH MY SON BRIAN WHO IS 5 YEARS NOW.  AND NOW AFTER 5 YRS., I HAVEN'T BEEN ABLE TO CONCIEVE NATURALLY AGAIN SO I JUST STARTED A TREATMENT THIS MONTH HOPEFULLY THIS YEAR WE WILL HAVE A 2ND CHILD.

[vsentz]

have you had any HSG tests?? or LAP??? what kinds of tests have you and hubby had done??? are you going to an RE??

[mami1323]

Trust me I know how you feel.  I had tried for over a year and nothing.  I decided enough with all the opk's, temping, preseed and other methods that I had used for entire year to get pregnant.  Then all of a sudden about 6 weeks 2 days ago I conceived.  No bd planning, no opk's...no nothing just good ol' fashioned bding for fun.  It takes the average woman over a year to get pregnant and every month there is only a 20% chance of conceiving.  It does happen and it will happen.  I know 8 months seems like an eternity because to me it did as well, but it really isn't as long as you think it is according to doctors.  They always want you to wait until at least a year of trying before doing any tests.  My doctor was kind and performed an HSG on me when we had only tried for 6 months so ask your doctor if they will let you at least do that.  An HSG will determine if you have blocked tubes or scarring.  It will also reveal any abnormalities in your uterus.  I'm sure you are fine and for some women it just takes longer than others.  I never thought it would happen to me...so keep your faith.  

[needfaith]

i am new to it also. my very 1st pregnancy 30 years old. my hubby and i been trying for almost 10 years. now i go to hospital i found i missed my period when i started spotting brown after intercourse. been spotting since over 2 weeks well go to the doctor 1st she says you're definitely pregnant. hcg 11000 but then he orders ultrasound. nothing. hcg reading like i am over 6 weeks but both ultra vaginal and abdomin (abdomen) nothing. she said it could be to early but they did not see sac or anything. she said i probably had a miscarriage. looks like the fetus quit developing or its and etopic. no cramps just spotting over 2 weeks. how is the hcg 11000 and nothing. you conceieved in a year or months. try 10 years

[Jenchic]

Hey there hoping someone could give me some tips and advice.  Been trying to conceive for seven months (which I know is not a long time to be trying).  Been tracking my cycles and having sex most of the time (we are newly weds!) more so when I am ovulating.  I can't believe that the whole aspect of getting pregnant is completely mystifying me! I've been taking folic acid been upping my exercise eating healthier.  I know I am stressing out a bit about the whole thing but can't seem to help myself.  My husband on the other hand is not worried at all.  Just looking for general advice thanks

[Lucia07]

Thanks for your comments.  

Jenchic, I am also a newlywed and trying and frustrated like you.  Everyone that has kids tells me to relax and have fun with my husband and it'll come.  I know it's hard to do that when all your thoughts is about conceiving.  I guess I'm not a good person to give advice since I need it so badly.  I pray a lot and hope that helps.  I will pray for everyone in this forum.

[jen023]

Hi all! I can definitely sympathize with the frustated feeling. We have been married almost 3 years and have been ttc for almost 2. I've had 2 m/c, the last was over a year ago. I've tried everything that I've heard on here. I did find out though that I have a tilted (or tipped) uterus and they say that can be a big reason why it's so hard for me. If you go in for an annual pap test, you might ask them about it. Otherwise, it could be many other things - or nothing at all and you just haven't gotten pg yet. I know, the wait is unbearable. I'm to the point where I don't know what to do anymore. I've tried to set up tests with my dr but they won't let me come in until dh is tested, and he is refusing to do that - embarrassed, I guess. I've also been considering adoption. My sister, my best friend, dh's best friend's wife, and a good friend here at work all are pregnant. I'm letting myself get really down about it  - I suggest that you don't let yourself fall into this. Just keep your hopes up - They say a normal person should be able to get pregnant within a year of trying - so you've got plenty of time. Good luck to you - I hope it happens for you soon!

[miya]

I am 28 yrs ... my dr told me i have pcos.. i am ttc last 1 yrs but not success... i am in metformin 1000mg right now (almost 3months) .. now my dr told me that she put me in clomid but my insurance doesnt cover all this thing now i am in middle what can i do can i take clomid without dr ... do somebody give me help