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Fertility / Infertility (Expert Forum)
Trouble conceiving second child
Answered by
Elaine Brown, MD - Pregnancy, Gynecology
Elaine Brown, MD - BLOG
Billings - MT
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Trouble conceiving second child
by Darkwing27, Jun 18, 2009 12:02PM
My wife and I had no problems conceiving our first. After a few clomid cycles, 1 failed iui, and 2 failed ivf's we were frustrated (all of which took place over the past 2 years.) My sperm is perfect according to the dr.'s and according to the obgyn, my wife is and I quote "gynecologically healthy." We were having loads of stress during those 2 years with job changes and house for sale and the constant fear of the artificial processes not working so I'm sure that had something to do with all our failures. So we decided to take a step back and just start enjoying each other again, trying naturally until it just happens on it's own, when it's supposed to. We're way less stressed now and enjoying the lovemaking but it would be wonderful to get the reward soon! Any advice?
Doctor's Answer
by Elaine Brown, MD, Jun 20, 2009 03:14PM
, Jun 20, 2009 03:14PMTo: Darkwing27
Hi!
You've taken the first right step. Whether or not you ever have children, you should not waste precious time being unhappy over it! Infertility can destroy your relationship if you allow it to--so good for you that you're not!
I'm a firm believer that Mother Nature knows best when it comes to conception, so pay attention to your "instincts" and if you are both feeling frisky--do what comes naturally no matter what the ovulation predictors say.
This is especially important on cycle days 11-16 ( starting with the FIRST day of the period as cycle day 1) but should not be limited to those days only. Also, don't over do it--intercourse more than once per day can actually deplete a man's sperm count.
It is also important that you reduce stress as much as possible, and have other interests in your life so that you aren't focusing totally on "success or failure" each month, but instead are planning a Carribean Cruise or taking tennis lessons.
Another project that many people consider is adoption, and many are rewarded with children of their own PLUS the adopted child or children. Just some things to think about.
Also, take this from a mother of 4, ENJOY the freedom that you have now, so that you won't regret giving it up later!
Good luck!
Dr B
You've taken the first right step. Whether or not you ever have children, you should not waste precious time being unhappy over it! Infertility can destroy your relationship if you allow it to--so good for you that you're not!
I'm a firm believer that Mother Nature knows best when it comes to conception, so pay attention to your "instincts" and if you are both feeling frisky--do what comes naturally no matter what the ovulation predictors say.
This is especially important on cycle days 11-16 ( starting with the FIRST day of the period as cycle day 1) but should not be limited to those days only. Also, don't over do it--intercourse more than once per day can actually deplete a man's sperm count.
It is also important that you reduce stress as much as possible, and have other interests in your life so that you aren't focusing totally on "success or failure" each month, but instead are planning a Carribean Cruise or taking tennis lessons.
Another project that many people consider is adoption, and many are rewarded with children of their own PLUS the adopted child or children. Just some things to think about.
Also, take this from a mother of 4, ENJOY the freedom that you have now, so that you won't regret giving it up later!
Good luck!
Dr B
