i'm 18 and trying to get pregnant

[kimiko152003]

hi my name is kimiko and i am 18 i really want to be pregnant and i've been trying too. but i just seem to can't get pregnant (my boyfriend is 27 by the way) can someone please give me advice to what could be wrong i mean i'm so serious my boyfriend and i tried everyday for two months straight and still nothing please!!!!


sincerly,
kimiko

[babysomeday]

First what normally happens is that you go to your gynocologist, they do a work up on you. Then after you have tried on your own for a year or if the gyn finds something wrong, you then go to a reproductive endo Dr. they will do further work up on you. Most couples it takes on average 6-12 months to get pregnant. Each cycle you have only like 25% chance of getting pregnant. Everything has to be timed just right. You have to know exactly when you are ovulating and then make sure to time sex just right. Usually starting 3 days prior to ovulating until 1-2 days after. The egg only lives 12-24 hours after you ovulate. I would suggest getting ovulation predictor kits, start testing on day 10 of your cycle and test until you get a positive, which is two lines that are as dark or the test line as dark as the control line. Once you see a positive ovulation test, you normally will ovulate 12-36 hours after that. I hope this helps.

[Mommy2Selena]

I would suggest you wait till you and BOYFRIEND are married and have a home, I had first baby young and trust me it is not easy I wish I had waited now I am in my 30's and having babies it is so much more fun.. I also thought my boyfriend was my forever and he ended up being no where to be found when baby came I raised her 18 years on my own.. Just something to think about.

[RockRose]

kimiko - someday,  you'll thank God for unanswered prayers.

This man is way too old for you,  and you aren't married.  This is the time in your life where you figure out what you want to do with your life - get your education,  start on a career or a mission.

You're trying to take the easy way out by binding yourself to an obligation rather than spreading your wings and flying.  

It's unfair to the baby,  and to you,  and this guy will be gone before the baby arrives.

[tina1111]

Amen to RockRose's post. I was thinking it but didn't want to say it. There was a large age gap between myself and an ex. At the time the difference didn't seem so vast and oh, "I loved him". One morning I woke up to an old man that was falling apart and had false teeth, bad back, grey hair, ED and all the old age things. I was too young to be doing that. I didn't want to sit at home watching reruns of Andy Griffith and talking about grocery prices. I was still young and had a lot of life left. I do thank God for unanswered prayers. I can't imagine he and I bound for life with a baby today. Phew! I dodged a bullet.

[Brown Eyed Gurl]

I would go to your gyno and have them check things to see what's going on and maybe use OPK's and see when you are ovulating to ge the correct times.  I'm not going to judge your age or lifestyle or the age of your BF cause I think there's nothing wrong with the age and it's your own choice when and by whom you are pregnant.  All I can say is make sure you know all the consiquences before you do get pregnant.  And good luck if you deceide this is indeed what you are wanting.

Brandi

PS I too am young only 21 almost 22

[mommyluv02]

when i was 18 my man was 28 so i dont see the age thing as an issue but we are married now and getting pregnant was and accident for us but we delt with it.are you even ou tof high school? maybe you should wait a few years. ho wlong have you been with this guy? are you sure he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with? there are alot of questions you need to ask yourself before you really start to try and if you get the answers you want then you go to your doctor and get checked out first.

[LAMUNECA]

HI, gurl well im 19 and my bf is 27 also,, and we are going thru a preagnacy scare rigth now like a lot of this woman have told youm think about it first, you have soo much ahead,, I dont think age matter if he truly loves you, I think his old enough to know what he wants but it doesnt nessesarly mena is what you want, think about everything you wana do before having a family,, I think about it now that im going thru thig, GOD BLESS gurl,, wish you the best

[christinaaa]

i'm 18, and my boyfriend is almost 20, and we're trying to get pregnant too. i dont see age as a big issue, as long as your sure you love eachother.  alot of young women these days go for older men, because their stable, and have a house and money, but as long as thats not why your together, then thats good.  me and my boyfriend have also been trying for two months, and we both want this soo bad, soo i see where your coming from. i just wanted to wish you the best of luck, and let you know your not alone.

[Want2BeMama]

this post was from 7 months ago!! why do they keep bringing old  posts up and dont answer current posts when people really need help not like these 18 yrs who have been trying for only two months give me a break!!! this frastruates me!

[Kjp2009]

I think its a bit harsh that this girl asked for some advice because shes upset she cant conceive & all she has got is people lecturing her! If you have no advice for her.. Dont post comments!
Id say think about exactly what you want & how far you will go to get it.
Im currently overweight and in the next few years i plan to become pregnant, at this stage, for me it wouldnt be a good idea. I bucked up my ideas, joined a gym, changed my diet, started on vitamins n changed my view on life.. I too am only 18 and my boyfriend 20.
I wanted a baby so bad! Especially after i miscarried last year but had a real good think for whats best for my baby, im mature enough for a baby but decided to wait while i get extra healthy to give my baby the best start!
Good luck x

[Kjp2009]

I think its a bit harsh that this girl asked for some advice because shes upset she cant conceive & all she has got is people lecturing her! If you have no advice for her.. Dont post comments!
Id say think about exactly what you want & how far you will go to get it.
Im currently overweight and in the next few years i plan to become pregnant, at this stage, for me it wouldnt be a good idea. I bucked up my ideas, joined a gym, changed my diet, started on vitamins n changed my view on life.. I too am only 18 and my boyfriend 20.
I wanted a baby so bad! Especially after i miscarried last year but had a real good think for whats best for my baby, im mature enough for a baby but decided to wait while i get extra healthy to give my baby the best start!
Good luck x

[gillianl]

i have a cousin who at the age of 19 had her first child with her still boyfriend, she is now 24 years old with another child both are 6 and 2 years old.  she has just been diagnosed with terminal cervical cancer and we don't know how long she has left to live.  she will be marrying her partner next weekend after 8 years together.

What i am trying to say is if all us young ones had to do what our elders told us and get our career, get married, save money, buy a home we would all be in our late 30's or 40's struggling to have children.  I know some women would prefer there children after they become 30 and i accept those peoples decisions.  however if my cousin didn't plan her life the way she has she would never have had 2 wonderful boys, a roof over her head and a partner who love's her unconditionally

I feel some people have to take a good look at themselves before giving information on people they hardly know over an internet community forum as some of us young ones also have trouble conceiving as i am experiencing 2 and a half years after ttc my first child.  No offence was meant in this message just giving my opinion

[xlynzolgex]

Here here. I completely agree.
I am 21 years old and my partner and i have been having unprotected sex for just under a year now. To my frustration every month i get my period! My sister has three boys and she suggested i try the clear blue digital ovulation kits. Has anybody used these kits before and do they know the success rate on them? There are so many people out there in the same position and it is so difficult. My best friend has just found out that she is 7weeks! excellent news for her but as for my partner and i we are still counting our 28day cycle :(

[jterrell84]

I'm almost 26 and in a serious relationship with my boyfriend and i'm terrified of having a baby now! You need to live for yourself girl, before you make those decisions that cannot be undone. A child is a wonderful thing, but don't you want to give it everything it could ever want/need? Great preparation is in order for you and your life to be ready for a child. Thank about your future child, not yourself.