It can be hard to find a doctor that supports the diagnosis, but is sounds like you are so miserable, something has to be done. I try and remember that doctors work for us, so we can "fire" them. I have also found nurse practititoners to be helpful is medication managment, especially if you have an idea of some things to try. Good luck!
Try change doctor, look up a clinic that actualy deals with fibromyalgia, type in google "fibromyalgia and the name of the area you live" see what comes up. Some doctors are not very understanding about this illness and think it's all in our minds... but you and I know different we suffer of something that the cause has not been found yet, so hang in there, there is lots of us and together we'll find solution!
"my fingers mold to what ever I'm holding(pen,fork,toothbrush)"
I strongly suggest ruling out lyme (which can take a few tests... you might want to post in the lyme forum for the best tests) and/or rheumatoid arthritis.
Keep us posted... we care !