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Need a place to vent
I dont have a question; I just need some positve feedback. I was diagnosed with fibro a year ago and I also have severe osteoarthritis in my feet, ankles, knees, and hips as well as a seperated pelvis(pubic symphisis). I have been put on Cymbalta(made me very sick to my stomach); Savella(raised my already high bp); and I am deathly allergic to lyrica and any meds with its main ingredient. My doc that i had had since I was a little girl retired right after my diagnosis of fibro and I havent been able to find a new doc that I like. I am a stay at home mom of 4 boys 10 to 4 years old and when my husband gets home he just sits and watches tv. I have no help and my husband has taught our boys that women are supposed to do all the housework. The housework is never ending, someone is always hungry, and all the while I am in so much pain and am so tired. There are not any meds I have to take for pain. There are days I want to just curl up in a ball and stay in bed. But alas, I cant do that. Otherwise nothing at all would get done. I know because I went on strike from housework for two weeks and no one stepped up. My mother cant help because she has RA. I just have no support right now and Im at my wits end. I hurt so bad.
If you don't like something, change it.
If you can't change it, accept it.
If you can't accept it, change...your attitude.
"Never accept that something wrong has to be that way, or that there's nothing you can do about it."
Some people will never understand how you feel. Forgive them anyway.
Some days will be worse than others. Accept it anyway.
Some emotional trauma is suppressed inside you. Deal with it anyway.
There are many things that can be done RedDirtCat.
One of them is to look into the benefits of Coconut oil.
Coconut oil, the organic extra virgin type is a superfuel for the brain and it
has been used to calm the symptoms of ADD.
It has antiviral, anti-parasitic, antimicrobial and ant-fungal medicinal properties and often surpassing the effectiveness of prescription drugs
( without the unwanted side effects)
It is great for cognitive function. 1T daily, work up to a max of 4T daily
within 4 weeks (therapeutic dose)
For details go to the coconut research center website.
Cut out junk food, sodas including diet, and most carbs, specially sugars, sweets, white flour,alcohol, excessive caffeine etc.
This will help starve the tartaric acid in your body that is causing fatigue
(it's a cellular toxin interfering with metabolic processes). Apple cider vinegar-the raw unfiltered organic type is the best-1T before meals
will help restore malic acid levels (malic acid is necessary for the Krep's cycle-metabolic function- and in low levels in the presence of high tartaric acid )
ADD shares much with Hypothyroidism. Have you ever been tested for Hypo.? if not you may want to do a preliminary self test: the "basal temperature test" Just look it up. It's simple.
Finally any emotional debris form the family break-up HAS to be cleared!!
In order to move on with your life any suppressed emotions and any left-overs must be expressed and cleared out of your system, before you can make any real progress, physically, mentally and emotionally.
If you need any suggestions or details how to go about this, let me know.
You may message me directly if you prefer.
This is not intended as a substitute for medical advice.
Best wishes!
Niko
If you can't change it, accept it.
If you can't accept it, change...your attitude.
"Never accept that something wrong has to be that way, or that there's nothing you can do about it."
Some people will never understand how you feel. Forgive them anyway.
Some days will be worse than others. Accept it anyway.
Some emotional trauma is suppressed inside you. Deal with it anyway.
There are many things that can be done RedDirtCat.
One of them is to look into the benefits of Coconut oil.
Coconut oil, the organic extra virgin type is a superfuel for the brain and it
has been used to calm the symptoms of ADD.
It has antiviral, anti-parasitic, antimicrobial and ant-fungal medicinal properties and often surpassing the effectiveness of prescription drugs
( without the unwanted side effects)
It is great for cognitive function. 1T daily, work up to a max of 4T daily
within 4 weeks (therapeutic dose)
For details go to the coconut research center website.
Cut out junk food, sodas including diet, and most carbs, specially sugars, sweets, white flour,alcohol, excessive caffeine etc.
This will help starve the tartaric acid in your body that is causing fatigue
(it's a cellular toxin interfering with metabolic processes). Apple cider vinegar-the raw unfiltered organic type is the best-1T before meals
will help restore malic acid levels (malic acid is necessary for the Krep's cycle-metabolic function- and in low levels in the presence of high tartaric acid )
ADD shares much with Hypothyroidism. Have you ever been tested for Hypo.? if not you may want to do a preliminary self test: the "basal temperature test" Just look it up. It's simple.
Finally any emotional debris form the family break-up HAS to be cleared!!
In order to move on with your life any suppressed emotions and any left-overs must be expressed and cleared out of your system, before you can make any real progress, physically, mentally and emotionally.
If you need any suggestions or details how to go about this, let me know.
You may message me directly if you prefer.
This is not intended as a substitute for medical advice.
Best wishes!
Niko
One of the best decisions I've made yet was to ask my doc for anti anxiety meds. I'm a college student and was going through a very rough breakup/family issues my first semester back to school(I took a few years off).
When I would get stressed, I could literally feel a flareup just boiling up and I could feel myself making it worse. I started to have anxiety attacks caused by the fear of causing a flareup. It was the WORST whenever I had an exam...after the worst semester I've ever had (mentally, physically....and I won't even mention my grades), I asked for something for the anxiety.
Now, when I feel my body trying to do a little fibro freakout, as I like to call it, I take just a quarter- half a pill and it helps me get my emotions/stress level under control without making me a worthless zombie.
It's not perfect, but it helps. The hardest part is processes the mental aspects of it. My mom was diagnoised about three years ago, so I knew what was a head of me. I thought I'd handle the diagnosis well...but I didn't account for the guilt because I felt like I do it to myself, the frustration at people who don't believe it is, in fact, a real medical problem. Also, I struggle with slowing down. I've always been a go go go type person (super ADD)...the hardest thing in the world is to rest and not push myself past my new (restrictive) limits.
It's a VERY lonely condition. People honestly don't comprehend how bad and how varied the symptoms can be. I'm only 25 and I worry I am busting my *** for grades that don't remotely reflect my intelligence or drive just to...not be able to work. I worry about having kids one day because I have periods where I'll sleep for 24 hours straight.
There are certainly much, much worse conditions out there....but many of them show physical symptoms that illicit genuine reactions from people. I hate 'the look' I get when I say I have fibro (and I know everyone knows what I'm talking about). I hate that I'm young, intelligent and driven...yet I can barely squeak by each semester. I'm a photographer and I have the talent and potential client base to have a semi successful part time gig doing shoots...but it's just too much of a strain on my body to try and do everything I used to do.
Sorry...I guess I needed to vent also. I'm frustrated with my condition and exhausted from the toll it takes...but I do know that, regardless of how much harder I have to work, I'm going to have the life I want. On bad days like today, I have to remind myself of that.
When I would get stressed, I could literally feel a flareup just boiling up and I could feel myself making it worse. I started to have anxiety attacks caused by the fear of causing a flareup. It was the WORST whenever I had an exam...after the worst semester I've ever had (mentally, physically....and I won't even mention my grades), I asked for something for the anxiety.
Now, when I feel my body trying to do a little fibro freakout, as I like to call it, I take just a quarter- half a pill and it helps me get my emotions/stress level under control without making me a worthless zombie.
It's not perfect, but it helps. The hardest part is processes the mental aspects of it. My mom was diagnoised about three years ago, so I knew what was a head of me. I thought I'd handle the diagnosis well...but I didn't account for the guilt because I felt like I do it to myself, the frustration at people who don't believe it is, in fact, a real medical problem. Also, I struggle with slowing down. I've always been a go go go type person (super ADD)...the hardest thing in the world is to rest and not push myself past my new (restrictive) limits.
It's a VERY lonely condition. People honestly don't comprehend how bad and how varied the symptoms can be. I'm only 25 and I worry I am busting my *** for grades that don't remotely reflect my intelligence or drive just to...not be able to work. I worry about having kids one day because I have periods where I'll sleep for 24 hours straight.
There are certainly much, much worse conditions out there....but many of them show physical symptoms that illicit genuine reactions from people. I hate 'the look' I get when I say I have fibro (and I know everyone knows what I'm talking about). I hate that I'm young, intelligent and driven...yet I can barely squeak by each semester. I'm a photographer and I have the talent and potential client base to have a semi successful part time gig doing shoots...but it's just too much of a strain on my body to try and do everything I used to do.
Sorry...I guess I needed to vent also. I'm frustrated with my condition and exhausted from the toll it takes...but I do know that, regardless of how much harder I have to work, I'm going to have the life I want. On bad days like today, I have to remind myself of that.
It is a common situation, where the husband has the belief that the woman's place is in the house. It's one of the root causes of dysfunctional family relationships and when illnesses like Fibro strike, the consequences can be very grave.
You can try talking to him as buddiegirl3 suggested, however, I suspect that this won't result in anything positive. .
Besides, this is an ongoing issue, most likely discussed and argued many times in the past already.
If you have a good rapport with your doctor, have HIM talk to your husband
about your suffering and pain from Fibro and OA.
He just might listen and who knows, he might surprise you by doing the dishes or asking the boys to put away their stuff & tidy up their rooms!
Unfortunately, when the rules get established early on, trying to implement changes at a later time because of your "invisible" diseases like Fibro and OA, simply don't elicit enough understanding that would lead to sharing
a little in the housework.
Your husband and perhaps some of the boys (to a lesser degree but always with their dad's influence) may consider you as annoying, lazy,
a complainer etc.
One approach you may consider trying is a "baby step" program.
Implement easy , simple changes for your boys to follow in exchange for some privileges. Over time it can become a substantial improvement.
Being creative helps here.
Check a thread I started a while back where you'll find some natural remedies to help manage Fibro better.
Search this community under IWILLDOTHIS.
This is not intended as substitute for medical advice.
Best wishes!
Niko
You can try talking to him as buddiegirl3 suggested, however, I suspect that this won't result in anything positive. .
Besides, this is an ongoing issue, most likely discussed and argued many times in the past already.
If you have a good rapport with your doctor, have HIM talk to your husband
about your suffering and pain from Fibro and OA.
He just might listen and who knows, he might surprise you by doing the dishes or asking the boys to put away their stuff & tidy up their rooms!
Unfortunately, when the rules get established early on, trying to implement changes at a later time because of your "invisible" diseases like Fibro and OA, simply don't elicit enough understanding that would lead to sharing
a little in the housework.
Your husband and perhaps some of the boys (to a lesser degree but always with their dad's influence) may consider you as annoying, lazy,
a complainer etc.
One approach you may consider trying is a "baby step" program.
Implement easy , simple changes for your boys to follow in exchange for some privileges. Over time it can become a substantial improvement.
Being creative helps here.
Check a thread I started a while back where you'll find some natural remedies to help manage Fibro better.
Search this community under IWILLDOTHIS.
This is not intended as substitute for medical advice.
Best wishes!
Niko
I am so sorry to hear of your struggle. I know how much pain you are in as I have Fibro and Lupus. Lyrica worked very well for me and I know it does not work for every one. Another medication that works for me is Tramodol. It helps with the pain and it also lifts your mood.
Have you sat down with your husband and explained how much pain you are in? Maybe he just doesn't understand. If he truely cares about you he will be a man and step up and help you. Maybe if you gave him some reading material on Fibro it would make him understand? I am so sorry you are going through this. I will say a prayer for you.
Good luck to you
Have you sat down with your husband and explained how much pain you are in? Maybe he just doesn't understand. If he truely cares about you he will be a man and step up and help you. Maybe if you gave him some reading material on Fibro it would make him understand? I am so sorry you are going through this. I will say a prayer for you.
Good luck to you
Plus I have had a couple of anxiety attacks lately that have put me in the hospital. We just moved 2 weeks ago and for some reason our house has become the hangout spot for the kids in our tiny town pop. of 230.
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