Thank you for providing this forum! My question is this: my 68 year old reasonably healthy mother will have 24 inches of colon removed and after a week to ten days in the hopsital, will require post op care at home in the weeks after surgery. My sister and I believe that Mother needs an in-home nurse to care for her and any complications that may arise after surgery. What is your best advice on how we should prepare? Many Thanks, Jennifer Grayson
I've had 3 major bowel surgeries and several other abdominal surgeries. I live alone and I only needed home nursing care when I had complications (abscesses, etc) that needed attention. here's a few hints that might help, especially if she is having an open and not laparoscopic procedure.
use a pillow/folded blanket or towel to press against her abdomen when she laughs, sneezes, or coughs. sneezing was the worst for me since they catch you off guard.
getting up from a horizontal position can be tough at first. I would slide my legs off the side of the bed/couch and put my feet on the floor. then I would kind of slide off the bed so that I was squatting and then stand from that position. I know others that would turn on thier stomach and then slide off that way.
she'll be tired and want to sleep a lot the first week or two at home and that's pretty normal. it can take anywhere from 2-8 weeks to recover and up to 6 months before you really feel back to your usual self. she'll have to give it time, and not be too ambitious and push too hard.
you might want to prepare some quick meals ahead of time that can be microwaved. she most likely won't be able to drive for a while (2 weeks usually for me) and since she'll be on pain meds, it's probably not a good idea anyway. ask her doc if she needs to be on stool softeners while taking the pain meds.
I couldn't reach up high very well cause the stretching really hurt, so I made sure and moved a few things down out of higher cabinets (especially the laundry soap).
another thing is that I always experience what I call post-anesthesia blues. I think a combination of the meds and the buildup and stress of the surgery all combine and lead to a bout of the blues after surgery. from talking to others, it's not uncommon.
oh, and a nice thing to do right before the surgery is to get/do a pedicure. it's a nice chance to pamper herself and she won't be reaching her feet for a while afterwards.
take care
In hindsight, having help for the first week was helpful. I would imagine that an older individual might need help longer.