Sorry, but you are MUST make an URGENT appointment to get that toe seen to.
It is very badly infected and the infection looks like it is spreading.
If you do not get it seen to, gangrene can set in and you will need to have an amputation. When that happens the poison spreads and they don't just amputate the toe.
You will be losing more than just a few hours of work if you continue to neglect this toe.
Yes, I am trying to frighten you into going urgently to see your doctor.
Let us know how you get on at the doctors.
That looks like a neglected infection. The infection can make its way to the bone or your bloodstream so if you have kids I don't know why you are not taking this seriously.
If this were an early infection in a person who was SURE they didn't have diabetes, I would say to soak it in warm salt water 2 times days a day, but this looks like you've let it get beyond that. Curing this is not going to be just swallowing a pill or applying ointment. It will take treatment, including I&D and elevation and time to clear this up.