extreme guilt

[guilty89]

about a week ago I almost cheated on my girlfriend of 18 months ,  I was out on the drink with my friend for the 1st time in over a year( I never drink) and ended up at a house party. at that house party I tried it on with a girl who I find completelty unatrracitive and never will , I was being sleazy and saying dirty things , she rejected me  and straight after that I was so happy she did and I instantly regretted it, I love my girlfriend so much she is best thing to ever happen to me she is my 1st love and hopefully my last as I would like to be with here forever , this happened before when we 1st started going out but I only gave my number to another girl instantly regretted it and told me grlfriens strightaway about it and she forgave me , now  find myself overwhelmed with guilt , I cannot stop thinking about what I have done , I wake up its the 1st thing on my mind and stays there until I go to sleep , I don't know what to do its taking over everything I think about , I am so scared of telling her thinking that she will not forgive me yet I want to tell her as we are completely honest to each other about everything she is best friend  , I don't live with her  but spend every weekend with her (apart from the last one) and I going to see her tomorrow and don't know what ot do?? how long will this intense guilty feeling last  , how can i get over it without telling her because thte last thing i want to do is hurt her , please help me its taking over my life

[mandy876]

sometimes honesty is the best thing.  but it might really mess things up since this will be the second time.  she forgave you before she must really care.  you should really think since you have flirted do yunreally love your girl friend. thinjk it over i dont think you would even think about flirting if youu really cared.andy876

[whitetigress1227]

It is natural for a man to flirt with women. You didn't do anything with the girl so you can't say you cheated. All you did was talk and that one time you gave out your number. Honestly you did nothing wrong. You shouldn't feel guilty. I wouldn't tell her you flirted with another girl. Maybe you could surprise her with flowers or something as a gift to help yourself feel better. It's great to hear someone who is very dedicated to his girl. I myself have been with my high school sweetheart for 12 years now. He was my first and only love. We have a great relationship. Good luck!

[Millard]

How will you feel if you don't tell her.  I wouldn't want to spend my life with someone who did not allow me to look at another woman or to have female  friends.  There is an old country song, 'Almost Persuaded".  You need to look it up on YouTube and listen to it as it answers your questions.

Good luck.

PS:  You did nothing wrong so there us nothing to forgive...