and also i think iv got somthing wrong with my et tubes because alot of the time when i swallow i hear a clicking or popping sound in my hear which i heard can make things alot worse for me if i fly.
Thanks that really helps ease some of my worries. But was just woundering what problems i will get because in my other ear it is not perforated but because of meningitis when i war younger i have significant hearing loss and almost always block with ear wax what can i do to help this if anything???
Yes. In fact, flying with a perforated eardrum should actually cause you less discomfort than if your eardrum is intact.
Flying
When a plane takes off, the pressure inside the cabin drops. This means that the air in your middle ear is at a higher pressure than the pressure inside the cabin. This does not usually cause a problem (whether your eardrum is perforated or not) because the air is forced down the eustachian tube, and the pressure evens out.
When a plane lands, the pressure of the air in your middle ear is lower than in the plane, and the eustachian tube can become blocked. The low pressure in your middle ear can cause your eardrum to press inwards, which can cause discomfort and temporary hearing loss. However, after a short while, this usually returns to normal by itself.
If you have a perforation (hole) in your eardrum, the air should move into and out of your middle ear more freely because it does not need to rely on the eustachian tube to let air pass in and out. Therefore, you should not experience as much discomfort.
If you have a perforated eardrum, you should keep your ear dry in order to avoid infection. Do not go swimming, or diving, and be careful not to get water in your ear in the shower.
Have you seen an ear specialist? Maybe if you did, he/she could recommend something for you.
The chewing gum is a good idea too.
try chewing gum for sure, also try nose drops (Afrin) to keep nasal passages clear that could effect your ears. Flying does not normally hurt adult ears unless they have sinus infection or other unusual issues. Babies cry because of their ears still being developed. good luck