Dreading Mother's Day (May 10th)

[Judy246]

I'm beginning to feel very unsettled, because, Mother's Day is around the corner. The TV commercials are beginning on all the wonderful things to get mom on her special day.

This will be my second Mother's Day without my mom. The first anniversary was just awful without her and I now am reliving being without and her passing all over again. How can I get anything special for mom whem my mom is dead and as pretty as flowers are ....they die too.

I dread being reminded that my gift will be flowers and reliving with my elderly father (84 yrs. old) that mom is gone.

Maybe, I will have a mass dedicated to her, but birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, etc., are just sad reminders that my sweet mom is gone.

Judy

[rparton]

I can sympathize 100%.  My mom just died March 7, and I've been blue ever since they started what I like to call teh Mother's Day ad campaign.  So said I'm not in the process of picking out a new blouse or piece of jewelry for Mom this year.  And I'm a mother, so can't just pretend the day doesn't exist.  I was VERY bummed out all day the other day - makes me want to cry.

[Beachwalker33]

Thank you for your input.Unfortunately,certain members in my family don't get along,so I don't see a happy family reunion taking place.My Mom was pretty much the only one on my side of the family that gave a damn! Everyone has there one lives and I've tried to be the peacemaker and mend fences,not much luck!Doesn't make things much easier! I have few loving,caring people in my life.But,in my opinion most people just don't care,most, not you! Unfortunately many people find other's suffering entertainment,at least it seems that way in my town.Can I change that,I really doubt it..God Bless,Jen

[PromisedLand]

This is the second mother's day without my stepmother, and the 50th without my birth mother...my father died 26 years ago, my 26 year old son died 4 months ago.  I was talking to my other son today tell him "you know...you're the only blood family I have
left,other than my brother"....let's stay close and make memories for your kids and you and your family...at this point I think that's the most important thing...loving your remaining family, making memories and staying in touch with them....we're planning a family reunion later this year...

Jim

[Beachwalker33]

This will be the first Mother's Day without my Mom.My plan is to act like that day doesn't exist anymore,with a son that won't be easy.I've realized just how difficult all the firsts are without her here.She did far too much for me,the void she left has literally nearly killed me.I was her crutch and she was mine.I just hope she knows how hard I tried to save her life.When I was caring for her,near the end,my son was at my Grandma's wanting me there and my Mom at the hospital also wanting me there.I felt like I was being pulled in two different directions.I still feel that way,but now my Mom's in heaven wanting me there and my son is here on earth needing me here.I'm in poor health and find it almost impossible to live without her.Its an adjustment alright,one I pray I can learn to live with..God Bless everyone,Jen

[suzi-q]

Oh, Judy....I can relate.....this will be my 8th Mother's day without my mom...the only thing I can say is that it does get easier....write her a letter....say a prayer....talk to her and wish her a happy mother's day.....believe me, she knows just how much you love her and always will....Also know that you are not alone...there are many of us without our moms and the day is always bitter sweet....hang in there....just pray to God for strength and comfort.....

Susan