Grief

My wife died very suddenly on the 30thDec. of a brain stem bleed.there were no warnings,no hedaches she said my head feels like its exploding phone an ambulance.Within two minutes she stopped breathing.I done cpr on her and she started breathing again then the paramedics came and took over.When we gotto the hospital she was on a ventilator had a scan and the doctors told us there was no hope for her.Within five minutes of them taking her off the ventilator she passed away.Even though my two daughters have neen towers of strength i feel lost,alone,why should this happen to her.One moinute im fine then the grief kicks in again and i still see her lying on the hospital bed lifeless.They say times a great healer i know its only been 6 weeks but i still cant get my head around it.If it wasnt for my two daughters i think i would have given up.Its just not fair my wife was only 45.

[mammo]

Hi.....I am so sorry about your wife.  Life does seem so unfair at times, and it leaves us with so many unanswered questions.  It's still early and you need to take the time to mourn your loss.  Your daughters need you more than ever and your wife would want you all to live happy lives......you know this.  She will live on in you and your daughters, always with you.  Write letters to your wife, even if you toss them away, this is a great release for us.  Tell her how you feel, how you miss her, everything...and I think she will hear the words you are writing.  A good friend of ours lost his wife suddenly and he was also told to put his feelings down on paper.  He would sit in front of his computer sobbing and writing. It will get easier, don't be too hard on yourself for still hurting.  Pull your daughters in close and all of you make her proud. I wish you peace, and big hugs.

[nnelg101]

Likewise I am also sorry for your loss. It is normal that you grieve especially that special someone is your wife. Some even grieve longer that a year. Sometimes life is not just fair. We try our very best in this existence then something comes along and break us down. What matters now would be to honor and think what would your wife want for you and your kids. Im not saying that you forget those moments with her but rather keep it in mind and let it strengthen you instead. Dont be afraid to share your thoughts with your children for they can lighten your burden a bit.

"We go from loving them in the presence
to loving them in the absence"

Be strong. Take care.