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I lost my son to a herion overdose
My son died march 25 2010 to a herion overdose he was home he had a friend with him who did'nt help him she just let him die she was scared .She said she was sleeping and didn't know . But the police took her checked her phone records and it showed she had been on the phone from 12a.m til 7 am when i i up then she came out and said somethings wrong with Aaron i went in his room he was cold i knew then he was dead. How can i grieve when I'm so angry because of the circumstances surrounding his death, I think she should get charged with murder how can someone just watch someone die and don't get help. I don't care if she was high or not there is no excuse.
You need to not speak just because you used heroin you don't know what your talking about losing a child!!!! I just lost my son 2 weeks ago from using heroin with 2 no good people that cared more for themselves then my son! My son saved a friend once that was ODing in front of him but instead of running scared like a weasel he ran that boy to the ER and SAVED HIM!!! Being high on drugs DOESN'T give them a pass for ignorance or humanity!!! So Talk all day about your heroin use but don't speak to a parent who lost their child that could of been helped MOST CERTAINLY!!!
my name is dawn i just buried my 23 yr, son brandon on sunday 2,2013 from an overdose he was my life i dont know how to begin to heal,,he was depressed we had just buried his son in october,2013 he lived an hr,,i lost a grandson and a son in 6 months i dont have the energy to move how can i ,,need help ,,dawn
Hi, I reside in South Africa. Im so sorry for your loss! My son died 22 March 2010. He used crac cocaine. He was bipolar too and drank a doble dose of his medication on the 19th March because he thought he had to make up for the 2 days before he didnt had medication. He was so possitive about his "rehab", he was clean for 16 weeks or so. He wrote a letter to his wife that how good his feeling again and that we are going to see how his going to be the old Kevin before drugs. That evening he did crack again, he wrote on his face book "ill pay someone to kill me" and the again "men live, men die, where am I" He knew all of us was going to be so disappointed in him, but then he had a brain annuerism, the police picked him up 8h30 the 20th March, lock him up for the whole day becaus he was "drunk". We report him missing at about 14h00. 17H00 I phoned the police to see if he was there, I thought maybe he was in an accident or something, and the they laughed and said yes his there, still drunk. He went into coma 05h00 21 March, had life support till 22 March 16h40. He had so much bleeding in his brain,97% brain damage. He then died while still on life support. I had only one child,and feels like its the end of my life. There is my good days, but more bad days. Its 9 moths now and still im asking all these questions, why diidnt the police phoned me, the knew Kevin, his father is a detective there, THEY KNEW HIM!! I'd like the drug pushers to be locked up for ever. But at the end, Kevin chose to take that risk, I cant blame anyone for that, I do blame his farther who abbanded him since he was born allthow we wher married for 10 years, he was never part of kevins life, that one of Kevins big problems he had, he always longed for his farther. I miss my son sooooooo very much, I wish he could return to me...addicted or not, just the way he was! Life will never be the same again and its like my life has ended! I dont know why Im still here, I wish for death, but dont have the courage to do it my self!
Hi, I reside in South Africa. Im so sorry for your loss! My son died 22 March 2010. He used crac cocaine. He was bipolar too and drank a doble dose of his medication on the 19th March because he thought he had to make up for the 2 days before he didnt had medication. He was so possitive about his "rehab", he was clean for 16 weeks or so. He wrote a letter to his wife that how good his feeling again and that we are going to see how his going to be the old Kevin before drugs. That evening he did crack again, he wrote on his face book "ill pay someone to kill me" and the again "men live, men die, where am I" He knew all of us was going to be so disappointed in him, but then he had a brain annuerism, the police picked him up 8h30 the 20th March, lock him up for the whole day becaus he was "drunk". We report him missing at about 14h00. 17H00 I phoned the police to see if he was there, I thought maybe he was in an accident or something, and the they laughed and said yes his there, still drunk. He went into coma 05h00 21 March, had life support till 22 March 16h40. He had so much bleeding in his brain,97% brain damage. He then died while still on life support. I had only one child,and feels like its the end of my life. There is my good days, but more bad days. Its 9 moths now and still im asking all these questions, why diidnt the police phoned me, the knew Kevin, his father is a detective there, THEY KNEW HIM!! I'd like the drug pushers to be locked up for ever. But at the end, Kevin chose to take that risk, I cant blame anyone for that, I do blame his farther who abbanded him since he was born allthow we wher married for 10 years, he was never part of kevins life, that one of Kevins big problems he had, he always longed for his farther. I miss my son sooooooo very much, I wish he could return to me...addicted or not, just the way he was! Life will never be the same again and its like my life has ended! I dont know why Im still here, I wish for death, but dont have the courage to do it my self!
I also Lost my beloved 21 year old son to an accidental overdose. there were 3 others there that night including his girlfriend the 1 who woke up and freak out then put him on his back causing him to suffocate! She was high on xanax and methadone but I know these girls were not so wasted that they didn't have a clue! What an excuse! She knew enough To put him on his back And I believe The girl Concerning your son's death Definitely could have done more! Losing my son Almost killed me. I put a gun to my head. this pain does become more tolerable though with agonising time. I lost my mom A few months later And I used to think her death one day would be the worst I was wrong. My mom's death Was easy Compared to my son's death. Lara
my heart hurts for you am so sorry. i have two sons and it would take me out to lose one. plz get some help in dealing with it and lean on GOD he will carry you throught . prayers are lifted for you and your family.
I'd like to add that the loss of a loved one is one of the most devistating, life changing experience and it's a very long, painful journey, but there is hope and you will survive. It's going to take time, your time, so please stay with us to just talk about your anger, feelings,etc., it really does help.
My sympathies. What a hard loss. Feeling girlfriend could have kept him alive is the huge hurdle for you. But the real work is to get through the grieving process.
My son was killed by his father March 6: shot to death. My eldest who was with him feels he should have been able to save him. He was shot three times: both feet and leg. May lose one foot.
Am I angry? I guess. At times. Then I carry on. I haven't sought out a group. Just stay in apt. trying to keep up with daily routine. You will go through several stages I think as time passes. I'm crying less: sleep off and on.
Went to oncologist yesterday: he ordered a barium enema for next week. I had a delayed reaction to his clinical recitation of my treatment for anal cancer. Will cancel test tomorrow.
My advice is to take it easy on yourself. Your anger is very understandable. I do hope you will find that you have the strength to handle your feeling as they arise.
My son was killed by his father March 6: shot to death. My eldest who was with him feels he should have been able to save him. He was shot three times: both feet and leg. May lose one foot.
Am I angry? I guess. At times. Then I carry on. I haven't sought out a group. Just stay in apt. trying to keep up with daily routine. You will go through several stages I think as time passes. I'm crying less: sleep off and on.
Went to oncologist yesterday: he ordered a barium enema for next week. I had a delayed reaction to his clinical recitation of my treatment for anal cancer. Will cancel test tomorrow.
My advice is to take it easy on yourself. Your anger is very understandable. I do hope you will find that you have the strength to handle your feeling as they arise.
I walked in and found my partner dead on our couch in May 2008. When someone is in that situation they freak. I did get help with 911 and attempted CPR which did not help. Her family has been angry at me ever since saying that I did not do enough. I can tell you that anger at her is not going to help you. My deepest sympathies are with you and your family. I could not imagine losing one of my children. Part of healing is to let go of the anger and trust in God.
Hey Maggie. I am so sorry for your loss. Please don't think I am telling you my answer in anything but a loving sincere way. Your son was responsible for his death. I don't know if you believe in God. I do. I will pray for you to have the strength to pray for his friend. Put all the anger toward addiction. I used herion probally less than 10 times. I believe if she was on the phone from 12am to 7am she was not talking , but sleeping or nodding .with the reciever off. She most likly was thinking he was asleep and glad of it because there may have been more to use.
My deepest condolences on the untimely passing of your beloved son, my heart goes out to you and your family and your anger is justified, there is no excuse for her not seeking help for him, but she probably was so high on drugs herself that could not possibly think clearly or react properly to the situation. There is also the possibility that it might have been too late, because of the overdose that he took. Your grief, pain and anger are part of the grief process, but she did not kill him, the drugs dids, but she is guilty of not seeking help that could have saved him, but unfortunately she wasn't even able to help herself due to the drugs less your son. What I do know is that this girl will have to live the rest of her life, tormented by the choice of not only taking the drug, but the effect and consequence of not being able to react properly due to her mental state.
I'm so very sorry at the pain and loss you are experiencing. In July 07, I loss 7 family members within an 8 month period, which included my mother dying in my arms, the following week, my brother in law, the following week my fiance's father whom I loved dearly, mom's best friend who attended her wake and burial died 4 months later from cancer, my brother loss his first baby 2 weeks before Christmas, my beautiful dog died of a heart attack (I say broken heart at losing mom) and I loss my job. I felt lik "Job" from the bible and death brought me and my family to my knees, so I know what it is like to stare death in the face as it took the life right out of my mother in my arms.
I've los smy mother and you have loss your son and no mother should have to bury their child. The death of a loved one is life changing and you will never be the same, but I do promise that within time (your time) will survive this very dark time in your life, but you will get there one step at a time. I recommend that you talk about your feelings and anger and surround yourself with good friends and family and if necessary seek grief counseling, which I highly recommend, but the reality is that there is no way around this one, but God will give you strength for what is ahead. Rest easy, you are going to survive this, one step at a time. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
I'm so very sorry at the pain and loss you are experiencing. In July 07, I loss 7 family members within an 8 month period, which included my mother dying in my arms, the following week, my brother in law, the following week my fiance's father whom I loved dearly, mom's best friend who attended her wake and burial died 4 months later from cancer, my brother loss his first baby 2 weeks before Christmas, my beautiful dog died of a heart attack (I say broken heart at losing mom) and I loss my job. I felt lik "Job" from the bible and death brought me and my family to my knees, so I know what it is like to stare death in the face as it took the life right out of my mother in my arms.
I've los smy mother and you have loss your son and no mother should have to bury their child. The death of a loved one is life changing and you will never be the same, but I do promise that within time (your time) will survive this very dark time in your life, but you will get there one step at a time. I recommend that you talk about your feelings and anger and surround yourself with good friends and family and if necessary seek grief counseling, which I highly recommend, but the reality is that there is no way around this one, but God will give you strength for what is ahead. Rest easy, you are going to survive this, one step at a time. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
There is no excuse! You have every right to be angry, it's very normal. What a coward she is. I'm so very sorry for your loss. I just got back from a homicide survivors meeting and it helped me a lot. It's been 5 years and it's still very hard. But there are some good days now...finally.
You've got a long road ahead of you. Maybe when you're ready you can talk to others that understand.
I was very angry also and still am. I am learning to somehow channel my anger towards more productive things; I'm not there yet. I know you feel horrible.
Talking to other mothers with the same loss helped me a lot. It's all very personal though. I'm sorry.
Love,
abby
You've got a long road ahead of you. Maybe when you're ready you can talk to others that understand.
I was very angry also and still am. I am learning to somehow channel my anger towards more productive things; I'm not there yet. I know you feel horrible.
Talking to other mothers with the same loss helped me a lot. It's all very personal though. I'm sorry.
Love,
abby
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