Loss My Mom in car accident 4/2010

[bubala00]

I HAVE BEEN HAVING A VERY DIFFICULT TIME DEALING WITH THE LOSS OF MY MOM. SHE DIED IN A CAR ACCIDENT ONLY HALF MILE FROM HER HOME. I FEEL THE HER LOSS IS GETTING WORSE FOR ME AS THE MONTHS MOVE PAST. I LOST MY DAD IN 1996. THE SUDDENESS OF HER UNEXPECTED DEATH AND THE VIOLENT WAY SHE DIED FROM HER INJURIES I CONSUMES ME ALL DAY AND NIGHT. MY MIND IS ON 24/7 GRIEVING HER. I DO START GRIEF COUNSELING NEXT WEEK I AM HOPING IT WILL HELP.

[Judy246]

Hi Jim, missed you! I write from the my painful experience and my heart. It's been a very painful, raw, tough journey, but we do heal with time and always carry our loved ones where not even death can take them away...our heart. Hugs to you Jim.

[PromisedLand]

You write so well, Judy.




Jim

[Judy246]

My very deepest condolences on the unexpected passing of your beloved mom. Only someone who has loss their mom can understain the pain, grief and sorrow that is life changing. My mom died in my arms in July 07 from Congestive Heart Failure and I will never get over losing my beautiful mom. I miss her every single day, BUT with time, I have been able to feel better and accept what I can't change and move forward with my life and a heavy heart. Right now, you are experience the grief process, which is very difficult and raw. Unfortunately, there is no way around the "death" experience, it's painfully raw. Your mother at this point is resting in peace and she want you and your family to also be in peace. She is not the past, but the future, because if you believe in God and the resurrection, you will see her again in God's time. The person who caused this accident has to live the rest of his or her life with the knowledge that as a result of careless driving he/she caused the loss of a life and that alone must be hell living the rest of your life knowing someone died, because of your actions and he/she will stand in judgement for it, but at this point, it serves no purpose to continue tormenting yourself reliving the accident. You continue to be in this awful moment and will not be able to begin to heal and simply live again. I recommend grief and trauma
counseling to help you cope and grip with what has happened, but there is no way around this one, in order to heal you must grieve, but there is so much hope, promise, healing, forgiveness. You have a bond with your mother that not even death can ever take away and you will forever be an extention of her. Just look in the mirror and you will see her hands, lips, smile, eyes and heart. It's going to be ok, one day at a time and one day in God's time, your mom is going to come running to you from the gates of heaven and be the guiding light to show you the way, but for now, grieve your loss and live again. Hugs. Judy

[mammo]

Hi.  I truly understand your feelings.  When I was 25 I lost both my parents in a car accident that occurred almost in their backyard. You not only mourn for their loss, but how you lost them.  You are full of questions, pain, and anger.  I think the loss of our mother is one of the worst losses to endure, somehow in the back of our minds we feel they'll always be here.  Grief counseling will help you, it did me. Keep in mind that your mother wants more than anything for you to be happy, and she will live on in you!  Keep a journal of your feelings, things you learned from her, times you shared, etc.  Putting all this down on paper is very therapeutic.  I can promise you that it will get easier, I don't know how or why, just that it does.  The day will come when you'll think of her and smile, other times you'll cry and that's okay.  My thoughts and prayers are with you,  take care.

[Punkinhead75]

Sorry to hear about your mom.  Talking about it is a good thing and I'm glad you shared.  I sincerely hope the grief counseling helps.  Life is too short to spend each day in sadness.  God Bless!!!!!