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MOM'S death

i lost my mom on june 22nd this year. it has just been a couple of days. i lost my dad when i was a kid. he went away and remarried. after that he never tried to contact us. now that my mom is no more, i feel helpless and i cant find a way to cope with her going away. she died suddenly in front of me and i didnt have time to prepare myself. everything seems hopeless. i dont feel happy anymore. it is as if all the happiness has gone away. it is getting hard for me day by day to move on. the more the time passes by, the more sad and hurt i feel. i even feel like dying sometimes.
i am 21.
please help me out.
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I dont know what to say. I have come back after 7 months and I am truly elated to receive these instructions. but its been months and i am still not over her death. nothing is helping me. i still cry over her almost every night. :(
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Overcoming grief depression over loss of loved ones is a difficult process. Going through this is a normal part of the grieving process and is necessary to reconcile ourselves in some way so that we can move on from the experience to become a better, stronger person. Eventually it is important to "Let go and let God" so that we can move on with life.
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1530171 tn?1448129593
Hi Colleen.

Of course it was his time, regardless of the circumstances!
There is not such a thing as an accident. This only exists in our  "logical" physical world.
Mediums are real, yet, there are some who fake it for various reasons,
one of the main ones being money.
I'm not a medium, however, many spirits enter my field of awareness,
as I'm very sensitive to their energies, specially when it has to do with
direct personal/family involvement or indirectly for someone else -I guess a bit like a medium- when communication is not possible with one of their "own" people, for various reasons, such as grief, a low frequency energy but a very necessary one, as long as it is allowed to run its course and
gradually move on to acceptance and putting closure to our loss.

There are ways, once our vibrational frequency has risen to a higher level,
to establish some communication with the spirit of a departed loved one.
The way I do this intentionally is through meditation.
Often, when my mind is quiet, usually in the stillness of the night, signs and messages come to me that spirits are around and being very open and receptive to them, communication takes place rather easily.
My clairsentenience is fairly enhanced and I communicate with spiritual guides and other spirits frequently by sending and receiving mainly emotional messages.
I know that many people reading this would probably think that I'm "off the wall", lol! but it's as real as the screen you're looking at right now!

I will message you another time, as right now I'm going through one of the busiest phases of my entire life, so, in the event that you do not get a message from me in the next couple weeks, please contact me here
after the holidays.

For now, you and your son may want to  try meditation, by searching YouTube and finding a meditation video clip to your liking.
This helps quiet the mind and access the subconscious, which is the gateway to the Spirit and Psychic world!
One of my favorite spiritual/psychic teachers is Sonia Choquette and she has numerous videos on YouTube.

Love and Light
Niko


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my brother Tim passed away oct 15 2012,, and he was 30, my son is 15 and they were so close,,my son is having such a terrible time as well as myself,,i keep looking for signs and so does he but none yet, i smelled him alot at first,  I and my 8 yr old daughter found him in the bathroom and tried cpr and it didnt work, i feel awful, Was it his time?  or just an accident because of his medication?? i feel like its my fault  that i could not revive him,,is there anything u can help me with? how can i receive a message for my son? and are mediums real? my brother lived with us and he was my best friend ..i miss him so much,,our lives are so different wout him now, i am so afraid for my son because he seems so helpless, i have tried counseling, medication, love,, and he just wants to be with his uncle but hes gone now and i just dont know how to help my boy..any advice would be appreciated.. colleen
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973741 tn?1342342773
The greatest memorial gift someone gave my sister and I in honor of our mother was 5 Gideon bibles to be placed in hotel rooms with her name in them.  I don't know why that was so huge to me but I guess had something to do with her name being remembered.  I like the proverb above---  we can honor our loved ones either by doing things they did or doing things they loved.  

I also find that I can show love the way my mother did to those in my life and it feels like a circle.  Like she is still here because the gift of love she gave to me I can now share with my own children and others.  

Peace to all
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973741 tn?1342342773
My heart goes out to you as well,.  it's so hard.  Grief is a little different for everyone but many similarities.  So, I don't know what you feel exactly but have been through similar emotional pain.  

I went to a grief counselor which was very helpful.  My mother's death was sudden and tragic when she was young and I was young.  My grief was of the sort that I felt nothing, was numb or I was in utter despair and I was in that state for a year.  Finally I did seek help for it.  So, if you get to that point, know that professionals are out there to help you.  

Please know I'll be thinking of you and wish you peace.
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973741 tn?1342342773
I just wanted to say that I'm very sorry for your loss.  I felt your pain through your written words.  I lost my mom almost 20 years ago and weep for her still.  The mother daughter relationship is very special and losing that connection in the world hurts.  Grieving is such a process.  I don't think I did it very well as it took me a long time to be 'okay' again.  But, everyone has to do it as best they can and get through it.  Know that I eventually felt 'okay' again.  there is a definite hole in my heart but the pain is not as overwhelming.  Does that make sense?  

I know this is a hard time and going into the holiday season is always rough.  I'll be thinking of you and wishing you peace in your hear.  
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1530171 tn?1448129593
  Hello PrankyD.

I don't know if it is appropriate in your customs and culture for a male to hug a female, but I will send you a hug because it feels right and I sense that it could make a small difference.

The separation between the world we live now and the next one is very thin, just like a curtain!
I know, that the person who passes on, carries into her soul consciousness
the entire history of all the events and experiences connected to her Soul's growth, but most importantly, carries with her all the love for the family and friends left behind.
And you may ask "how do you know and how is this useful to me?", "at a time of grieving the loss of my mom"

I have been on the "next" world, through the bright layers of white light, not once but twice.
Each time following horrific accidents and my life, miraculously was given back to me, but not before experiencing the Light on the other side.
There was a Higher Purpose for me in the Great Plan.
It's all blissful there, where everything flows timelessly and gracefully and all there is perfection. The ones passed to the Spirit form are free of pain and illness and only carry joy and love from their previous life, for their beloved families and friends.
They are able to send their love and compassionate emotions and also to
send messages and guidance but only if we are open and ready for it!
While grieving their passing, we are overwhelmed with emotions of loss and sadness, so at this time we are unable to receive any of their gifts.

So, Pranky, you're never alone. your mom's spirit will always follow you wherever you are, sending you all her love and her guidance.
And you can do the same thing for her.
Send your loving thoughts to her and doing so helps her spirit be at peace. Love can never die and it will always be there between you. It's Eternal!
Death can never separate you from her this way.

I will pray that you receive strength to overcome the devastation you have experienced following the sudden passing of your beloved mother.
And that you will soon be able to receive her Gifts of Love and Guidance,
so your Life here will be a Blessed one.

Love & Light
TheLightSeeker

  PS
Message me if you like to.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
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1530171 tn?1448129593
This is from Rumi:

The sweet taste of Grief.

I saw grief drinking a cup of sorrow
and called out,
It tastes sweet, does it not?

You have caught me, grief answered,
and you have ruined my business.

How can I sell sorrow,
when you know it's a blessing?


I will send you a proper response over the weekend.
You are not alone.

Love and Light

TheLightSeeker
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1530171 tn?1448129593
Hello PnankyD.
Welcome to the forum and the Grief and Loss Community.

You made the right decision to come here.
Knowing that you're not alone does help and hopefully we can make a differerence, having dealt with our own situations and sharing with one another.
I'm at work now, but I will post again later.

Many Blessings,

TheLightSeeker
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i have a job too..i went to office but later on i could not continue and i have taken a leave now.. i cant concentrate on a single thing.. i have my exam in the next few days and i dont know how will i study. you are very strong. maybe i am not. it has been very hard for me. time is passing but i cant see any way out of this pain. anything i am doing that is reminding me of my mom...and that is making me cry more and more. i cant help it. i am on the verge of tears all the time. help me out!
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684030 tn?1415612323
It's almost 3 weeks since my mother died... I was holding her in my arms when she passed. So, I know the heartache and deep sense of loss and depression that you're feeling.

I deal with the grieving process 'one day at a time'... with some days being
a little less painful than others. I've gone back to my job, which offers a healthy mental distraction.

But, when I'm home... in the aloneness of my thoughts and feelings, I find myself doing special things that my mom would be doing if she was still here. I'm maintaining her flower garden. And, lately, I've attempted to cook meals that only she would've prepared. So, in a way, through me... there's something of my mother that continues to live on.

Sure, I'm sad... and, to a degree, angry... about my mother's death. But, I also remember the wonderful way that she lived her life. And, that's what keeps me going.

My advise to you... is to try to focus on some positive aspect of your mother's life... and bring that focus into your own life... to carry on her memory.

According to the ancient Romans... "as long as a person is remembered, that person never dies."  I believe that this true.
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