Mom's birthday

[kipland]

I lost my mom to cancer February 2nd of this year.  She was not only my mom, but my best friend too.  I miss her SO much!!

We've made it through a few holidays now, and although it hasn't been easy - we've pulled together as a family and plugged through.  

Mom's birthday is coming up - September 1st.  I'm having a hard time even thinking about it.  Any ideas on how to make it through the day easier?  

While I'm on that subject, how about Thanksgiving and Christmas?  I don't even want them to come this year, because it's just going to be such a huge void without her here.

Any suggestions on what others have done to get through would be greatly appreciated.

Lori

[kipland]

Thank you all for your thoughts and encouragement.  I guess the bottom line is, we'll never quit missing our mommies. :-(

momagain ~ the balloon idea is really neat.  And it's funny that you say you still pick up the phone to call her, because I do it every day still!  I think part of it is because she went so fast.  Two weeks and two days after she was diagnosed, she was gone.  We didn't have time to wrap our hands around her diagnosis, let alone her death!

BUT, in looking back, it was the best for her that it went that fast.  She didn't have to suffer for long, and quite honestly, I couldn't have mentally taken watching her in that state for much longer.  Cancer is a horrible, evil disease.

We're having a bbq at my dad's house on Monday.  We will celebrate the life that she had on earth that day.  I'm quite sure there will be tears, as we all just miss her so much.  Like you, I believe that I will see her again one day.  And I know that she's now she's reunited with her own mother, who she lost when she was only 17.  That gives me so much peace.  

But I still have this void in my life and this hurt in my heart, and some days I feel like I will never get a normal "routine" back.  It's so hard, as she was such a huge part of our lives.  I'm sure it will get better with time.

Thanks again,
Lori

[momagain59]

I lost my Mom in Feb. 2006 and here B-Day is also in Sept. We sent her balloons for her B-Day. We (myself and my kids) all wrote her separate notes, attached them to our balloons and sent them to her. We then went out for ice cream and talked about her and how much we miss her.

You have to let yourself grieve in order to heal. You loved your Mom and you deserve to allow yourself time to grieve. The first holidays following a death are the hardest. What you are experiencing is painful, but normal. At times, I still pick up the phone to call my Mom.

My Mom loved animals so, we have been discussing having a garage sale in honor of our Mom and donating the money to the local animal shelter. I still miss her and I always will. I do believe we will meet again so that helps.

[fung]

Hi, I still have my mom and dad-both 71 years- now and love them very much. . Listen to you really break my heart, I understand your feeling . It scared me to see that momen coming to me . I dont have any suggestion for you : (  but I  pray  that you can through this grief momen . When my friend's mom died, she celebrated her mom's birthday by doing what she usually did with her mom like giving present, dinner- but to someone else close to her, like her grandma or her mom's sisters or even donated to orphanage. This things did is as much good as  therapy  on her..
I wish you the best.

[margypops]

I lost my Mom several years ago, and I still miss her and think of her every day, I think thats what you do, you 'Endure" like we have to with so many things its the Human condition, the love and the Loss, I still think of the animals I have had through the years also, it doesnt hurt as much as time goes on, I think it best to think of her on her Birthday and maybe have a toast to her.