The 6 year anniversary of my mom's death is tomorrow...

[Limonada]

I can't believe that it's been so long time-wise - although, in my ways, it seems like it was yesterday.

My mom had renal cancer, suffered for far too long (a lengthy roller coaster of a decline spanning 4 years) and so it was a blessing to finally see her at peace....but I still miss her SO MUCH!  

I had bottled a lot of it inside due to there being a lot going on in my life following her death (meeting my future husband, getting engaged, getting married, having a baby - plus my dad remarried just over a year after Mom died) so I'm just dealing with it now.  Becoming a mom myself brought up a lot of things and so I'm in grief counselling...and on anti-depressants.

One thing my therapist said is that our society tends to view grief in terms of TIME - as in, "it's been 6 years so you should be over it already" - but that grief doesn't know or respect boundaries like that.  How true!!

[margypops]

I know how you are feeling, I think of My Mother every day and I look at her Picture a lot especially as I have so many of her ways and Sayings and it reminds me of her so much, I can look at my hands and they are her hands and my nose is hers. I sound like her, so my Family say. She loved you a lot no doubt and that is always there isnt it .

[kipland]

First off, I'm sorry for the loss of your mom.  I just recently lost my mom to cancer as well (February), and she was my best friend.  The hole that it's left in my heart is still raw, and in reading your post, I can see that it will probably stay that way - although not as intense.

I don't think we'll EVER get over missing our mom's.  We're always going to miss them.  Cherish the good times and know that all the good in your mom has been passed down to you, and in turn will be passed on to your own children.  What a gift she gave!!

I hope therapy will help you through.  Post and let us know how you're doing!

Lori