fake flowers at my grandma's head stone?

[turkee23]

my grandma passed away in dec 08 and its still very very hard to deal with....

her birthday is tomorrow and i will be making a visit to see her.... i always bring flowers, but of course they dont last ....what about bringing fake flowers?... they would always be there.... does that defeat the whole purpose?... and my grandma hated fake flowers....lol... would she be turning in her gave knowing i was putting them their?...

i just want it to be a more beautiful spot, not just a head stone.....

getting surgery in 6 days and there is nobody i want here more then my grandma, she would make me feel more comfortable about the whole thing, she was a RN.... happy birthday gran

[mammo]

I put fake flowers at the headstones of my loved ones.  I do the fake because they do last a long time, and after a bit, I buy new ones and replace them.  I try to stay with the season and their favorite colors.  When I get back in my car and look up on the hill, it makes me feel better to see the bright, colorful flowers adorning their headstones.  I don't think your grandma would mind, just that you're thinking of her.  Take care...

[turkee23]

thanks both of you... i went yesterday...brought 4 bunches of real flowers... i went with my cousin , that was her first time going since she passed...

we sat there for almost 2 hours just talking about the good ol times..it was great

[zzzmykids]

Gramma will enjoy the flowers that have been each specially picked by you.
Also the flowers brighten up the headstone. Your Gramma has gone one and remembering her birthday and special times shows what a great Gramma she was and a wonderful granddaughter you are.
Remember to replace the flowers about once a year, they fade and get really dirty.
Sincerely,
zzzmykids

[Judy246]

There really isn't a specific time frame to stop grieving. I loss mom in 2007 and I visit her grave 4x a wk. We learn to adjust living without them, but they continue to live in our hearts and we never forget them.  The Cemetaries have policies about what type of flowers, size, what can be put and what can not be put on grave. It's springtime, so right now real fresh flowers are the norm, BUT of course I always do my own thing and I bought the most amazing visually real "plastic" flowers (daphadils, orchids, etc. that look real, but aren't). If you are able to find spring flowers that look real then do it, BUT at the risk of having them removed by the cemetary. Where my mother is buried, I have beautiful spring "plastic" flowers that look so real, they have not been questions. I will be planting real flowers, but when I come back from my trip to vegas next month.

Also, Happy Heavenly Birthday to your precious grandma, may God keep her in His tender care. Hugs!