it is not geting better

[sissy480]

my mom past 6-1-06 and my dad 3-21-08 I am not that much better then the day thay died i some time fill like i am having a hart atack my chest is havy all the time it is hard to for me to go on i can not get rid of my mom stuff i look at it all the time is this normal? the same with my dads stuff i have never left them in my life till thay passt a way my mom and dad live with me my mom was ill for along time 18 years my dad the past2 years moma died of copd and she was on dialis my dad lung cancer i miss them so much i cry a lot i am going to the grave in dec it is in tex i am in az i have not went back sins my dad pass on i hope i do ok so pray for me.......... thanks

[suzi-q]

I can totally relate.  My dad passed in Sept of 2000...my mom 4 months later in January 2001.  My sister and I still lived home.  They were our world.  It was very hard.  It still hurts at times.  Especially with the holidays.  However, after about 8 years, the pain has subsided and I remember the "magic" of the holidays from when they were here.  I know that my parents want me to be happy and I try to live by their example.  I have since married and adopted a beautiful daughter from China.  I try to count my blessings including thanking God for having the most wonderful parents in the world.  It took me a long time to get to this place, and it took hard work...but it will come.  Give yourself a break...your pain is still very fresh....go easy on yourself and cry if you need to, but try to kind to yourself and smile when you can.  God Bless that He will soon replace your pain with happy memories and peace.

[98acer]

BAD DAY TO DAY I WANT MY MOM TO TELL HOW TO MAKE THE DINNER I WANT MY DAD TO SAY THE BLESSING IN IS NOT THE SAME .I MISS THEM...

[jml1986]

It sounds to me like you do not really want to move on. It's like you are afraid of letting them go and starting a life of your own. Is easy to get stuck in that place where you feel like if you move on, you must not love them as much as you should, and that is totally not true. How much you love is not measured by how long you grieve. You were the greatest thing in their lives and I am sure all they have ever wanted was for you to be happy and healthy and living a great life. The greatest honor you can give them is by doing so. Yes, it is hard, and yes, you have to force yourself to do it at first, but in time you will learn to move on and live a happy healthy life. My thoughts and prayers are with you.