lost my little angel again

[yemmy]

I am 22  years old in a few days i be 23 .. i have recently lost my little baby i was 21 weeks. i am so lost  my fiance dont said much..  i cant believe this happend to me againg after 4 years . Four years ago i have a 23wks stillbirth and here  i am againg not understanding how cant it be. both my little angel have died in my arms . i did choose to see the baby. sometime i feel like i dont deserve to be a mother i was taking so much care of myself but that was not enough. this happend on oct 28th 2007.. it nov 19 and i was thinking of having another baby soon, but i am scare but i also feel mentally prepared . how soon should i tried. and how could i prevent this from happening againg .. they did talk about the stich in my celvic with the pregnancy but never did it. should i ask them about that. i just need some opinion please help!!

[yemmy]

thank you for your support i am happy for u and your sister God bless u both .. i guess god have a happy ending for all of us hopefully god will bless me and my fiance with a healthy baby and i hope everything will be ok ..  take care and thank u all for your comment they help alot

[yemmy]

hi! thank u so much for your comment it help alot to hear someone giving me hope u know how i feel. i am sorry for your lost also  never is nothing in this world that could compare to losing a love one and knowing that they are dying and u cant do nothing about it.. so how are u now/?

[sammy1173]

hi yemmy. i'm so sorry for your loss, i too lost my little girl at 27 weeks, like you i held her, kissed her goodbye was left in this nightmare that is now my life. i certainly understand the wanting for another baby, never to replace your little one but your mind and your body know your a mum but all you can do is love your babies from afar. my situation is different in that my babys dad and i split up before i found out i was pregnant, we didn't get back together and i went through the whole pregnancy without any support from him, i can't put my hand on my heart and honestly say that if i did have a partner i wouldn't have tried again. the thing i want more than anything is too cuddle my beautiful baby girl again and show her how much i love her. its been a few months and it turns out what she had was pena shokier syndrome. a fatal extremly rare condition which is hereditry, no one can survive it, she got it as me and her dad have the same faulty gene. a new partner can never be tested for it, and they can only detect it at the 20 week ultrasound! i don't know what my future holds but i know how your feeling, tomorrow comes whatever you do but unless you've been through it like we have, people have no idea of the pain of loosing your baby. i'll be thinking of you and whatever you decide to do will be right for you and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. take care. write back if you need to chat.

[VickiJ]

Did your ob/gyn have a medical explanation for your two miscarriages?  You mentioned a stitch - did you have an incompetent cervix?  There's nothing we can say to ease your pain, but I want you to know my cousin (who is 38 years) spent many years trying to have a baby (even using fertility treatments), and had more than one miscarriage, and was literally heartbroken.  But, God brought her a beautiful little girl this last July who is healthy and wonderful.  It is inexplicable why there is suffering in this world, and I am so sorry for you, but please know that what is meant to be will be.  

Yes, if you want to conceive a baby, keep trying whenever you feel emotionally ready.  But please talk to your ob/gyn about your past pregnancies so they can help you through this process as best as possible.  Good luck to you.  

[girldirtbiker]

I wanted to post about my sis.
She got pregnant (was never supposed to have kids - she had lukemia in 3rd grade) and had a disbaled medically challenged son at the time. She was 4 to 6 weeks and had a test that showed the baby was not alive and well, she had a DNC. Life went on for us and a she was recovering from that, and still feeling really icky. About 3 months later we found out she was 2 months pregnant and this baby was healthy. She got pregnant immediately after and no clue at all! We were estatic! Auties girl was born Feb 12, 2004.
Just sharing!
tam

[girldirtbiker]

Hi sweetie.
I am new here.
Bless you and my heart and thoughts go out to you.
There is a vitamin you can take that helps with miscarriages, ask your doc. I cant remember what it is - I am so sorry for your loss, you are so young to have so much pain.....
Bless you and yours,
~peace and grace
tam

[slow_healer]

yemmy, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It sounds like this loss has been very rough on you. Have you thought about counselling? The loss of a baby is *very difficult*. Have you given yourself enough time to recover - mentally and physically? It sounds like you're in a rush to have a baby, but if you're still recovering from the last loss, do you think you'll be able to handle the stress if something goes wrong again?