lost the love of my lyfe..what now

[nojustice,nopeace]

Hello, Im a young lady who was envolved in a relationship with an not much older man(but older than me) I lost him about 4 months ago to medatestic cancer, He was 28yrs old(very young for cancer death)Even though I have made a good effort in trying to put the peaces of my life back together its 4 months later and Im still sick about it. I try to hide it from friends because I dont want to be looked at as a sympathy case.I just dont understand how i am suppose to be okay and just move -on like my day didnt revolve solely around him everyday of my life that we were together. No kidding we had it bad any time we were more than 15min away from each other there was a problem. we just instanly loved each other and we stayed to our selfs and we liked it that way and we didnt(or at least I didnt think) it would end so soon and 4 months later Im still very much heartbroken. I've loved other man before, believe me, but not like this one here, and I truely feel god sent me an angel and ripped it right back away from me so what Im asking is how do I deal?...this is killin me slowly..I mean I loved that man with my whole heart, he was the sick one but yet I feel he took care of me cause thats how much his love was returned I dont want to sound mean but when does the pain stop?How do I make this disappear???

[LLWB]

4 months is not a long time to grieve for someone you loved deeply. Accept that you have to move on, but you need to let your friends help you. Hiding your grief from them is denying it t yousrelf.  Give yourself permission to grieve and know that it's a process. It takes time. I also recommend grief recovery, it does help to talk to people who are going through the same thing. Good luck and God Bless. One day at a time

[kaznev]

I really feel for you.  It is as if you are grieving for many people at the same time.  Hospice often have grief counselling meetings you may be able to use.  You will need to grieve though.  Maybe you can write your husband a letter to tell him how you feel and send it to someone you trust.  Your grief is so understandable.  It will take time to grieve but do share your loss with others.  They will want to help but won't know how.  

[nojustice,nopeace]

Thankyou so much, and I do, his brother and I are as close as real brother and sister. I also have a pretty good standing relation ship with his sister nothing special but there if I needed them.But he does have children (from a past relationship) But of course baby mama drama. When he died so did my rights to see the kids. I got to see them when he first passed and that helped,but then she ( his ex) got stupid and felt like since he's not here I dont really have any ties with the children, just really trying to get me back for having a relationship with him she never had, any way i dont care cause she kinda right, I did get a little attached and got used to the fact that they were always around but hey, my relationship was with him not anyone else not even his kids so Im okay in that aspect but I mean I just would neva imagine in a million years that I would have to deal with such a loss.. I guess this is a part of life I have to move on but I swear easier said than done..But thanks for caring. May God bless you many dayz to come.

[PlateletGal]

I am so sorry to hear about your great loss. You mention that you don't talk to your friends about this and basically wear a happy mask around them and I think you should take off the mask because you need your friends support right now. Another suggestion I have is to honor your loved one by keeping his memory alive and/or visiting with his relatives and talk about his life.

All the best,

PlateletGal