Pain during gynecology exam and intercourse

I'm 19 and have no stds or infections.  I just recently started having sex when I married my husband.  We used condoms until I got on birth control.  I noticed everytime we had sex I had a burning and stinging feeling in my vagina during and after sex but it was bearable.  I also felt some deep pain during sex my guess is in my uterus but I don't know new to this stuff.  I did get an exam by the gynecologist which caused the deep pain for the rest of the day.  I didn't say anything to the doctor because I figured it was suppose to hurt some.  Then I got my birth control I've been on it for two weeks and I've noticed I have no more orgasms and can't get aroused.  Somehow  I still produce plenty of lubrication its amazing.  The only good thing from the birth control is it has cleared up my awful acne.  Sex on birth control pills hurts way worse and is not bearable with same pain as before just intensified. Also, what is the point of being on birth control when you can't even get aroused and sex is too painful.  I don't like the idea of using birth control that requires me to have to stick something up inside me. I see me messing that up and getting pregnant.  Should I just quit the pills and hope I don't get pregnant. I'm so annoyed. I also bleed after sex sometimes too.

[Elaine Brown, MD]

Hi!
I'm not sure where to start! Intercourse is often uncomfortable for the first several times.  It is often due to a mismatch in arousal rates.  In other wordes, he gets aroused much more quickly and sex begins before she is quite ready.  Two things to try:  More foreplay, and female dominant position (woman on top).  At least its a place to start!
As for birth control, you are going to need something, or you will almost certainly be pregnant within a year!  Every method has advantages and disadvantages.  From all that you mention, pills actually sound like the best option for you.  If you were my patient, I would recommend that you give them a little more time -- at least 3 months before you quit.  Also, remember the morning after pill -- Plan B.
Good luck!
Dr B

[mekiki1991]

I forgot to mention that I did not tell my gynecologist that intercourse was painful for me because I thought the first few times would hurt anyway.  I have done it 6 times now and everytime it was painful.  My pelvic exam was about a month ago.  The doctor said everything looked fine, but she did mention that I have a very small uterus.  During, intercourse it feels like he may be hitting my uterus when he goes deep, and it also hurts when he penetrates and thrusts around the area he enters.  Sorry for too much info. I'm just confused.  I don't think this is normal.

[mekiki1991]

Also, I am very well lubricated and not allergic to condoms.

[mama24kiddos]

I have the same problem and I have 4 kids and been married for 5 years so its not new to me.. But We have very painful intercourse and I bleed afterwards also..I was diagnosed with endometriosis in September 2010..You will probably have to tell ur doc that u want to be checked because not alot of them will check u for it..Oh yeah and I was on BC also..Hope it helps..Keep me posted..Thanks..