HI!
I think you should definitely get in to the doctor! It sounds like you may have both herpes type 2 and a bladder infection. If you were my patient, I would also check you for chlamydia, gonorrhea and HPV. If he has a "past" he has probably acquired some infections along the way, and he may not even realize it. Often the male partner is not symptomatic, and doesn't mean to infect the
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Female sexual dysfunction. There are lots of good medicines to treat the diseases and symptoms, and if you two are going to plan a future together, you should both get everything "cleaned up" and at the same time so that you don't keep re-infecting each other.
Don't worry--1 in 6 Americans has herpes, and 1 in 3 has HPV--in other words, your doctor won't think anything "bad" about you.
Good luck!
Dr B