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Please help me... I am overwhelmed worried...

I will try to provide all details, so please read my every word. I both used condoms, and I don't think either of them failed

1) Its last year. I was given protected oral&vaginal sex from a sex worker. After ejaculation, I can tell my sperm was inside the condom. She said she was tested 6 months ago which was negative. However, starting the 2nd day after that sex, I had a fever (99.5-100.5) for nearly a week. I put a few all-nighters before, so maybe I was not in a healthy condition. Then I got several diarrhea in the following month (mostly after I ate some spicy food). I was so scared that I did not dare to go to hospital to test, so I bought the OralQuick In-Home test. I tested myself on the 3rd, 6th and 9th weeks and they’re all negative. But they said only a test after 3 months would be valid. I did not dare to test again after 3 months...

Q1: Do you think my three test results (OralQuick In-Home Test) at 3rd, 6th, and 9th weeks are sufficiently conclusive? I just heard that oral test usually detects antibodies later than blood test, but I found some replies on the forum said a test after 6 weeks is enough
Q2: Do my fever&diarrhea have anything to do with HIV?

2) The second is 10-11 weeks ago. I was given protected oral and vaginal sex from a Chinese sex worker (in the US). She didnt know her HIV status at all and she didnt care about it that much... I used TWO condoms. During the sex, I felt sometimes the outer condom was quite dry (she had very little vaginal fluid), but I didn't use any lubricate. After ejaculation my sperm was in my inner condom, but the outer one doesnt look broken either. So far I haven't got any test, but this week, all the warts on my hands (I have had warts for 3 years but they were never like this) became very red and itchy. My girlfriend got a cold and cough, but recovered in 4 days

Q3: Do our symptoms have anything to do with the HIV at all?
Q4: Do I need to be tested? Am I 100% free of risk?

Thanks!
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6192988 tn?1379809968
according to your last encounter with protection(using condoms). you never have risk atall. hiv can not transmit the way. i can understand your anxiety. usually an antibody test at 8 weeks is enough to know your status that you are negative.
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I know I should go to get a test to clear my anxiety, but in fact there is no one in the world knowing this truth... I don't want to tell anyone. In another hand, I don't dare to go to test by myself because I am extremely worried that if I got a positive test result, I will pass out...

Therefore, I will highly rely on an expert's help... If I am 100% safe and I don't need to be tested at all, that would be great...

I have some knowledge of HIV and I used to teach my friends to clear their anxiety. However, when things really happened on me, I cannot be rational and logic any more...

I know the importance of using condom for every single sex, and I am kind of sure that if the condom did not fail, there should be 0% risk. However, I was crazy that why I always got symptoms after each encounter...

The wart symptom really killed my mind. Because I could not find a good reason for it taking place at this time. Why did they suddenly became so itchy? Why didn't this happen in the past 3+ years?...But also I heard that real symptoms of HIV would not occur after 1 month. This is the 11th week, so should I get somehow relieved?
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just a typo:

After ejaculation my sperm was in my inner condom, *and* the outer one doesnt look broken either.

instead of *but*
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just a typo:

After ejaculation my sperm was in my inner condom, *but* the outer one doesnt look broken either.

instead of *and*
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