Could this be hiv, anxiety or?

[congo74]

34 yrs. husband and father. I consider myself healthy (I do marathons) - very health conscious/obsessive Worry type of guy. I made some huge mistakes: During the same week I had sex one time with a co-worker. She gave me oral with no protection. Earlier that day she had been to the dentist for a routine check-up. Later that same week I met another girl at a bar, had drinks and we French kissed. Hiv from kissing is very low. Her husband is bi and my concern is that I had a tiny bit of sore throat when I kissed her. I felt horrible after these encounters and overwhelmed with guilt. It got worse and about a month after I started to feel pins and needles in my feet and legs and 2 or 3 night sweats - chest all wet. I would panic. I went to my Dr. and told him about it. I broke down and got very emotional. He thought it was anxiety and gave me a rx for Celexa and Xanax. Started to feel nausea and some difficulty swallowing. I obsessed about it. I contacted the first girl. She went and got tested and I saw the results. What about the girl I kissed? 4 weeks & 6 1/2 weeks I took an hiv AB test neg. I started seeing a therapist plus a psychologist M.D. who rx me more Celexa. She also gave me clonazepam. It helped me get a little sleep. Despite my Dr., the counselor and the psychologist M.D. all telling me that my pins and needles are anxiety I didn’t believe them. My Dr. ordered an Hiv-1 PCR by RNA test (48ml copies - 10.000.000) at 7 weeks and said it would be conclusive. Neg./none detected. I felt better - still had my pins and needles. Then I read the PCR by RNA test isn’t FDA approved for diagnosis. The pins and needles continued. At 8 ½ weeks I took another hiv AB test - negative. I still have the pins and needles – 80% in feet and worse when I wear tighter shoes. In addition, my Dr. also did blood work for a long list of different things. All within range. Could this really be caused by anxiety? Or is it hiv – what about hiv 2? If so, when should I take the next test

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Your symptoms are not due to HIV. The two exposures you describe are virtually no risk and you now have not two different HIV tests which have told you that you are not infected.  
Their results are totally reliable

Kissing is no risk, even deep kissing and even with gum, dental disease. or recent dental work The quoted figure for HIV risk, if one has oral sex with an infected partner is less than 1 in 10,000 and, in my estimation that is too high. Some experts state there is no risk at all from oral sex.  Neither of us on this site have ever seen or reading the medical literature of a convincing instance in which HIV was passed by oral sex and the risk from kissing, even deep kissing is even lower.  You exposures did not even warrant tested, except to relieve your concerns and give you peace of mind.  Having now been tested and gotten negative results, you certainly do not need further testing and have no need for concern.  Your symptoms are typical of anxiety.  EWH

[congo74]

Thank you so much! I appreciate your prompt response and the service offered through this website. I guess I will now try and focus on the "real problem" - the relationship with my wife.
Thanks again,