Welcome to the forum. My first reaction is to express my regret that you missed your meal by throwing it out. Of course you should have eaten it without fear!
This is strictly an issue of your self-professed HIV phobia/OCD. Nobody in the world has ever, once, anywhere, anyhow caught HIV from this sort of event. It's extraordinarily unlikely your food was contaminated with blood; even less likely with HIV contaminated blood; and even if it was, infection does not result from swallowing tiny amounts of HIV or from getting HIV infected blood on your hands. There is no chance you were infected, you should not be tested for HIV, and you can safely continue unprotected sex with your regular partner if you have one.
Those comments address your numbered questions, but to be explicit so there is no misunderstanding:
1) This is irrelevant.
2) No, this isn't feasible.
3) Nope.
4) Washing with soap and water instantaneously kills HIV. But since the risk was zero anyway, washing or not makes no difference in your risk.
As you likely know, phobias and OCD are not helped very much by simple knowledge of the scientific facts, so I doubt my comments are going to reduce your anxiety. But believe me, there is absolutely no risk of HIV in this situation. There is no additional information you can provide that would change this opinion or my advice, so there is no point in further discussion. I won't have anything more to say -- except to advise (as you might expect) professional counseling if you find yourself continuing to obsess on the possibility you caught HIV. I suggest it from compassion, not criticism.
Regards-- HHH, MD
Doctor, before I forget, am I at risk for any other blood-borne diseases such as hepatitis from the aforementioned event? This will be my last question. Thanks.
Thank you for your response doctor. Needless to say, I will be doing my best to move forward in an effort to address these irrational thoughts. Thanks again for your time.