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Feet Massage Episode --- Scared

Dear Doctor,

I've been practicing abstinence outside my marriage (having known I'm NEGATIVE from past tests) for a long time. But one month ago, I massaged another man's feet, WITHOUT ANY sexual contact, including oral, at all.

Two weeks after that,  a canker sore in my mouth. I didn't notice much, since I often get them 2-3 times a year. I thought about HIV, but I dismissed the thought afterwards. But the day before yesterday, (4 weeks +2 days after the feet massage thing), I noticed a red, non-itchy, spot in my lower chest. That sent me to hell. I started to be obssessed with hiv again. From then on, I've been looking at my chest and abdomen, and have been noticing a few more extremely faint pink patches.

Other than that, I've been feeling perfectly fine and energetic. I don't feel a viral infection. No fever whatsoever. But, given my history of many testing, even this feet massage episode brings back the idea of HIV testing to my mind. And once it's in the mind, it seems very hard to move on without getting a negative result. My questions are as follows:

1, Do you think the red spot, or the few pink patches for that matter, could be due to HIV? [without fever or malaise]

2, 2 weeks after the feet massage, I had a reunion with my wife. She had a cold BEFORE we had unprotected sex, and the cold was mainly coughing, running nose. Her cold is over within 6 days after our sex. My question is: Could the ARS function as worsening an existing cold (thus, appearing right after the exposure)?

2, Do you think I need to test for HIV, given my activity?

I'm trying to manage my anxiety, but sometimes I'm just afraid that I'll be the first person in the world to get infected without having sex or blood. I kept thinking that it's a big joke that the fate is playing with me: I've been super careful to the point of total abstinence, but in the end, hiv is cursed upon me without having had sex at all.

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Thank you doctor. I just have one last question:

I've been taking Omeprazole for several months (I have GERD). Maybe the skin rash has something to do with this medicine? I ask because today (6 and a half weeks) I again got more red spots on my chest. I freaked out first, but then I calmed down and thought about this medicine. Does that make sense?

I promise this is my Last Question!!! Thank You!!!
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300980 tn?1194929400
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Last answer.  I repeat,  You are not at risk for HIV.  Your activity was no risk.  Believe you test result.  There will be no further answers.  EWH
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Dear dear doctor,
I really really wanted to move on, but my body is playing tricks with me... Yesterday, another red spot appeared on the upper abdomen/lower chest... Today, one lymph node got swollen and whatsmore, it's not painful!!! I don't know what to do.. Today is the beginning of the sixth week. Was my negative result at 5 week premature and therefore unreliable ?   Do I need another test in a few weeks?? I never anticipated so much anxiety from such a feet massage activity...
Please help me .  Are these symptoms indicative of Ars??
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Dear Doctor Hook,

I got my Negative result today. Now I know I was being silly.  I've made up my mind to move on. Thank you very much!
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300980 tn?1194929400
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I predict your test will be negative. when it is, that will be PROOF that you did not get HIV from what was essentially a no risk activity.  EWH
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Dear Dr. Hook,

Thanks you so much for your answer. I felt better. I also wanted to move on, but I thought an HIV test would be helpful. So I took a 4th generation DUO test today (5 weeks mark). The result will come back tomorrow. At the same time, I noticed a faint red patch in the abdomen. I hope tomorrow's result will tell me it's not due to HIV.

What are the chances of it's being positive?

Thank you!
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300980 tn?1194929400
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome back to our Forum.  The activity you describe has absolutely NO risk whatsoever for HIV and should not raise concerns about HIV acquisition.  Your canker sore, your rash and your wife's cold occurred coincidentally and are not indicative of HIV.  There is absolutely no medical reason for you to test for HIV related to the activity you describe.   Rather, I suggest that you focus on aressing your anxiety disorder.  Take care.  EWH
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