Dear Doctor,
I've been practicing abstinence outside my marriage (having known I'm NEGATIVE from past tests) for a long time. But one month ago, I massaged another man's feet, WITHOUT ANY sexual contact, including oral, at all.
Two weeks after that, a canker sore in my mouth. I didn't notice much, since I often get them 2-3 times a year. I thought about HIV, but I dismissed the thought afterwards. But the day before yesterday, (4 weeks +2 days after the feet massage thing), I noticed a red, non-itchy, spot in my lower chest. That sent me to hell. I started to be obssessed with hiv again. From then on, I've been looking at my chest and abdomen, and have been noticing a few more extremely faint pink patches.
Other than that, I've been feeling perfectly fine and energetic. I don't feel a viral infection. No fever whatsoever. But, given my history of many testing, even this feet massage episode brings back the idea of HIV testing to my mind. And once it's in the mind, it seems very hard to move on without getting a negative result. My questions are as follows:
1, Do you think the red spot, or the few pink patches for that matter, could be due to HIV? [without fever or malaise]
2, 2 weeks after the feet massage, I had a reunion with my wife. She had a cold BEFORE we had unprotected sex, and the cold was mainly coughing, running nose. Her cold is over within 6 days after our sex. My question is: Could the ARS function as worsening an existing cold (thus, appearing right after the exposure)?
2, Do you think I need to test for HIV, given my activity?
I'm trying to manage my anxiety, but sometimes I'm just afraid that I'll be the first person in the world to get infected without having sex or blood. I kept thinking that it's a big joke that the fate is playing with me: I've been super careful to the point of total abstinence, but in the end, hiv is cursed upon me without having had sex at all.