Fingering and Masturbation

[ric685]

Hello,

Thanks for all the great work you guys are doing here. Greatly appreciated.

I had a drunken night of kissing 2 to 3 girls (Probably hookers) and must have had 10 plus cans of beer. Next day I had a very bad hangover and thus went to a massage parlor. This is what happened there and are my worries

1) I got into shower naked with the lady
2) She soaped me
3) She touched her hairy vagina and with the same hand massaged my penis
4) She slid thru the walls of my anus with the same hand
5) I kissed and fingered her
6) With the same hand I masturbated myself  and cummed over her body (Chest)
7) Got to my senses after cumming and washed myself in the shower for a good 5 to 10 minutes, specially my penis and genital area.
8) This happened 2 months before and during these 2 months, I am stuck with
      a) Heavy GUILT
      b) Pain one day in my testicles (My urologist said it is not STD and not to worry about)
      c) Having severe cold, cough, sore throat, watery eye and fever for the last 3 days (Had been working close to 16 hours for the last 2 weeks, so not sure because of that)

Please help me. I am not sure if this is all leading to the fact I may have any STD and specifically HIV. I am going to be a father soon and my drunken night of stupidity is giving me suicidal thoughts, every time I see my wife.

[Edward W Hook, MD]

You are right, the flu-like symptoms you mention are sometimes seen in persons who have recently acquired HIV however, most people with such symptoms have other, far more common problems such as the flu or other common, commmunity acquired non-STI viral illnesses that are acquired in the course of normal activities.  Take care.  EWH

[ric685]

Dear EWH,

Thank you for your comments. I did read alot around this but when guilt surrounds you, even a small ant looks like a snake!

I got worried because of the fever I got 3 days before. Was having running nose, watery eyes, fever, body ache, sore throat and diarrhea....and some of these symptoms matched with the early HIV symptoms I read in some health forum and got really concerned......

I just should learn to put this behind me and try to concentrate all the good things in life and not ever do another stupid mistake like this ever again. I now realize it is absolutely not worth it at all......

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Welcome to our Forum.  I'll be glad to comment.  You have already identified the major problem you are struggling with and it is NOT HIV, it is guilt over your actions.  There was no risk for HIV associated with any of the activities that you describe.  For starters, it is unlikely that your masseuse had HIV.  Most women, even most commercial sex workers, do not have HIV.  Even if she did, there is no risk at all for transmission of HIV from touching or from masturbation ("fingering"), even if your partner touched her genital before masturbating you.  It is not unusual for partners masturbating each other to get each other’s' genital secretions on each other in the course of the activity.

From a medical perspective there is no need for worry and no need for testing.  If you think it might provide peace of mind, you could go get tested. At this time the results will be conclusive for exposures occurring two months ago and I am confident that testing will show that you did not get HIV from the exposure you have described.  

I hope that this comment is helpful.  EWH