HIV Exposure Yesterday??????

[ricki1234567224]

Hi There Doctors

I need some advise.  I've received some advise in the Community Forums that helped to ease my mind, but I think what I really need is medical feedback to my particular exposure.  Here goes:

Yesterday, I met a strange man online (stupid idea, I know).  I went to his house.  We got naked with each other and engaged in mutual masterbation and very heavy body contact.  I sucked on his testicles through his underwear and also kissed his penis (again through his underwear).  I kissed and licked his body ALL OVER and he did the same to me!! I also sucked on his nipples (sorry for the graphics here). I did notice some scabs here and there on his body.

It wasn't until I left his place that I realized that I had a very large and very red canker sore in my mouth.  In the last few hours the canker sore has become incredibly painful.  I am worried that some secretions from his body (i.e. a possible cut on his body with some blood on it) or even some precum through his underwear got into my mouth and onto the canker sore - possibly leading to HIV infection.  I thought I was playing safe with what I was doing, because there was no direct insertive intercourse, but now I'm seriously worried and confused.  Should I consider going into the hospital to get Prophalaxis Drugs???  I am terrified and don't know what to do?  

Am I at risk of HIV infection from what I've described.  What should I do??? Please help

[Edward W Hook, MD]

That is what I said.  No risk.  End of discussion.  EWH

[ricki1234567224]

Hi Dr Hook!
I promise I will stop now. This man just terrified me today with his answers. So you still believe that this is still zero risk? That's all I need to know (even with the canker sore)?
God this man was so cruel to me.
Ricki

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Still no benefit for testing.  EWH

[ricki1234567224]

Hi Dr. Hook!
I know its been a few days since my last post and I was really feeling good about moving on and not worrying about this situation, but this is what happened:
I called the man that I had met last week Friday and decided to ask him his HIV status (as you had mentioned that was a good idea to do, and I agree with you completely). However when I did, this man exploded with me on the phone. He started yelling at me. Long story short he told me was positive (however with his angry tone, I'm not sure if he was serious) or just saying that out of anger towards me. Now my fears about the canker sore and the kissing and sucking though his underwear and also kissing his body which may have had small cuts and nicks is worrying me incredibly, not only about Hiv but other STDs as well. Is there any chance I could have picked up another STD through this encounter? Also, is my risk still zero? After speaking with this man I am feeling very scared and anxious! Still no testing required Doctor?

[ricki1234567224]

Thank you Dr. Hook - you are the BEST!!!!!
Have a great night and thanks again for your help!!
Ricki

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Brushign your teeth does not affect your risk in any way, nor do any small nicks of cuts.  

None of what you mention changes my opinion related to your risk for HIV in any way.  No risk. EWH

[ricki1234567224]

Hi Doctor Hook,

Thank you so much for your response.  It has helped ease my mind tremendously!!  Thank you!!

Now just for 2 quick follow-ups.  I failed to mention that I had brushed my teeth about 4 hours before meeting with this man - does that make any sort of difference with risk (in addition to having the canker sore in my mouth)?  If there was a little cut or nick on his body that I may have kissed could that pose a risk?  Also, based on your medical opinion, in addition to the hiv risk that I was concerned about, do you think I could be at risk of any other STDs from what I've described??  My throat feels a little sore today and I'm getting a little nervous.

Finally, I am in a very steady relationship with a woman who is now 6 months pregnant (I know I am an awful human being)!!  But do you believe based on the information I've provided that I am in the clear to have unprotected sex with no fear of transmitting hiv to her?  The only experience I have had is what I've described above with this one man, nothing else with anyone else!!  Please let me know.

Thank you so much for your time and expertise - I promise, thats it for me.  No more questions from here on.
Sincerely,

Ricki

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Welcome to our Forum.  Just as Lizzie has told you, here is absolutely NO risk whatsoever of getting HIV from your interactions with this person. HIV is not spread through kissing or rubbing and the fact that you have a canker sore which is now irritated does not change that one bit. You may have irritated the canker sore through your activities but to be concerned about HIV is not appropriate. There is zero risk from the activities you describe.

Furthermore, you do not know that your partner had HIV.  Unless you somehow know otherwise, the chances are that he did not.

Bottom line. there is no risk.  Any health care provider who would give you PEP for this exposure would be acting irresponsibly.  You do not need to worry and there is no need to even consider testing.  EWH

p.s.  In the future however, it would be a good practice for you to ask prospective partners of their HIV status.  Most people reply honestly.  EWH