HIV Risk or Needless worry

[worry1981]

Dear Docs
My episode was no insertive sex in Vagina/anal/mouth, Just been hugging while I was without my pants and sucking her breasts. Thats all even no masturbation has been included, I masturbated My self.I have old root canled tooth without crown now black color no pain/no holes, not bleeding, I  wasn't worried since I developed a Mouth Ulcer and Mild throat Conjection with phlegm .Mouth Ulcer healed without medicine but after two weeks again developed. Conjection with Phlegm still there.Also I used play with my 3 year old kid , I used to kiss my daughter lot of time she also developed vomiting and fever about 100 Degree.My concerns are
1, any chance to Contact HIV if we suck breast nipples ? I can't recall that i tasted anything. as a worst case scenario is it any risk if i swallowed any blood/ breast secretions from her breast with my root canaled tooth ?
2. While I am hugging her she was full dressed but if her vaginal secretions touched her cloth and that will be transferred to opening of urethra of my penis because my penis and I am not having anything so which are exposed and penis are jammed on cloth and I am circumcised person.is it any risk
3. is it any chances of getting HIV even in theoretical Concern from exposure?
4.Mouth ulcer and Mild throat Conjection with phlegm is sign of ARS and 3 Year old kid having mild fever and vomitting also / or it is nothing to worry ?
5. I have been discussed with one of my friend he said sucking breast with or without Body fluids(blood/Breast secretion) is not worry for HIV even we have cuts/sores or root canaled tooth in mouth,He said as long as we haven't feel, seen or taste blood / Breast secretion, there is nothing to worry , it will be like shake handing a HIV + person , also he said from dress you never get HIV even if bare penis touched or jammed on a dress which was dipped in Blood or general Secretions, does he was right ?
6. Do I required any medical testing and Can i have sex with my wife unprotected ?

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Welcome to our Forum.  The activities you describe, as well as the symptoms you and family members have experience are not related to HIV acquired through the exposures that you have described.  HIV is only transmitted in adults through penetrative vaginal or anal sex or through injection of infected material deep into tissue.  It is not transmitted by hugging, touching, rubbing, kissing (including French kissing) or sucking on a partner's breasts, even if there are mouth sores or dental/gum disease present.  Similarly, HIV is not transmitted through clothing, even when the clothing becomes wet with genital secretions. No risk whatsoever.

The illnesses you describe in yourself (sore throat, mouth sores), daughter (vomiting or fever) are far more likely to be coincidental infections of the sort most people get from time to time than anything else, including HIV acquired through the activities you describe.

There is no reason for concern or for testing related to the exposures you have described.  Nor is there any reason to abstain from sex with your wife.  I hope my comments are helpful- take care.  EWH

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Your friend is correct- my earlier answer provided this informtation.  EWH

[worry1981]

Dear Doctor

Thanks for your assurance my last question what ever my friend (He is also Doctor ) is said to me was Right .Just want to study route of transmission
This is my last question and end of the thread
Really Thanks for your Valuable Reply

[Edward W Hook, MD]

What I was saying is that we all get illnesses like sore throats, fevers and diarrhea or vomiting from time to time- this is normal an not related to HIV.  EWH

[worry1981]

Dear Doctor

I didnt understand the sentence sorry I am not well in English can you please explain "The illnesses you describe in yourself (sore throat, mouth sores), daughter (vomiting or fever) are far more likely to be coincidental infections of the sort most people get from time to time than anything else, including HIV acquired through the activities you describe. " including HIV acquierd through the activites you describe I didn't understand

[worry1981]

Thanks Doctor

So what ever my friend was said to me true "sucking breast with or without Body fluids(blood/Breast secretion) is not worry for HIV even we have cuts/sores or root canaled tooth in mouth,He said as long as we haven't feel, seen or taste blood / Breast secretion, there is nothing to worry , it will be like shake handing a HIV + person , also he said from dress you never get HIV even if bare penis touched or jammed on a dress which was dipped in Blood or general Secretions" as he was physician but not specialized in STD or HIV so I need an experts answer
Thanks for your valuable Advice