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Please assess risk at this point

about 9 weeks ago i had unprotected vaginal sex with a woman (3 times in a period of a few days).  I got tested at 14 days, 28 days and most recently at about 40 days.  Everything was negative.   The woman was 35, has a professional job, married but I think fools around some (not sure how much but more than with just me).  All we did was vaginal and I pulled out all 3 times.

I have been active with my spouse recently (after the 40 day test) and have some anxiety now..... she had a headache, cold sweats and a slight sore throat the other night but was also at the end of her "cramping" part of her "cycle".  No coughing or high fever or diarraha that I know of.

So much stress and anxiety.  Should I get tested again?  Should I be worried?  I AM!!!

I have had no indications of any HIV type symptoms myself, but I thought I would look for some reassurance.

Thank you in advance!!!!
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Thanks a bunch for this website and all of your professional help!  I put myself in a really dumb situation and have had horrible anxiety / stresss for the past 2 months.  a small amount of fun for 2+ months of stress.

Despite your advice, I took another test (it is now about 9-10 weeks) and it was negative as well.  I have not had any signs but apparently I have an OCD part of me for certain areas. I also spoke to the other party yesterday who said she was tested and was negative.  Hopefully this is all behind me now.

I can see how others who post here have such high anxiety if they have some similar symptoms to HIV.  I didn't even have any symptoms and I lost many hours of sleep.

Thanks again
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239123 tn?1267647614
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I apologize that the comment from Brian123 was permitted to stand.  Normally I delete comments with moralistic pronouncements, but I did not read his comment with sufficient care.  In response to your reply, I deleted his comment.

Brian, I withdraw my earlier statement welcoming you to make comments after I have responded.  You are not welcome to continue participating in this forum or the STD forum.

HHH, MD
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Dr:  I greatly appreciate all of the help!  I have followed this site for the past 8 weeks with the stupid sitution that i created.

Brain:- we were seperated when this happened.  that is no excuse obviously.  I purposely waited until over 40 days and testing until my wife and i did anything.  Still a very stupid situation!!!
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239123 tn?1267647614
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Blood bank rules/advice say people at risk for HIV should not donate blood.  Those rules do not apply to you.  Feel free.
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i am scheduled to give blood in about a week.  should i go through with that as well?  

I feel like a total idiot with all of this.  I got negative tests on all accounts (i had all the tests done, not just HIV).

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239123 tn?1267647614
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
There is no realistic risk of HIV from the sort of exposure you describe, assuming your judgments about your partner are correct (and statistically not much risk even if she had HIV).  More important, your negative test results prove you weren't infected.  You're home free.  For further reassurance, have you asked your casual partner whether she has HIV?  She might be just as nervous about the encounter as you are.

You're home free and don't need any further testing.

Good luck--  HHH, MD
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