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Risk assessment STD, HIV
Hi,
I am single, male and I never had sex (protective or un-protective; any intercourse or oral, even I never had hand job from any partner). I fit well in the definition of a virgin. I am from a religious background (Sorry for becoming unscientific here, but here is the root of my question). I am residing in US now. My question is naive, however I believe it would be helpful for many like me!
Well here is my scenario: One and half yr back, I travelled to Bangkok and before travelling I red about HIV and came to know it is much higher in this city, so I thought I would never have *any* kind of sexual activity. However, something happened...I cannot remember it exactly now, however I got text I posted at that time (Pls don’t read the doctor’s reply):
http://www.thebody.com/Forums/AIDS/SafeSex/Q206210.html
There was one more scenario, I took a lap dance, the dancer was nude and I ejaculated (I was wearning underwear + jean) within pants. NO fluid etc. from her side.
Well Here are my questions:
Scenario1:
1- What is the risk assesment for any STD etc? ...
I know hand job is not a risk even the hand is contaminated with menstrual blood (though I had no propoer hand job, means no ejaculation)? If genital (vaginal) stroke on one's belly (with no cuts) poses some danger?
I must mention that the bar-girl was very conscious about condome, which shows she must be practicing safe sex. (Although it seems stupid to mention it, as I did not have sex with her)
2- How can I overcome the feelings, which sometimes say I might have been caught some STD from one of the highest risky city? Is this sort of anxiety or some religious guilt, How can I overcome this? I am perfectly fine, but sometimes it destroy my routines!
scenario2:
1- What is the risk assessment?
Last question:
Do I need test?
I need mind satisfaction. I want to take test, however, I get scared and dont take it!
Best Regards!
John
I am single, male and I never had sex (protective or un-protective; any intercourse or oral, even I never had hand job from any partner). I fit well in the definition of a virgin. I am from a religious background (Sorry for becoming unscientific here, but here is the root of my question). I am residing in US now. My question is naive, however I believe it would be helpful for many like me!
Well here is my scenario: One and half yr back, I travelled to Bangkok and before travelling I red about HIV and came to know it is much higher in this city, so I thought I would never have *any* kind of sexual activity. However, something happened...I cannot remember it exactly now, however I got text I posted at that time (Pls don’t read the doctor’s reply):
http://www.thebody.com/Forums/AIDS/SafeSex/Q206210.html
There was one more scenario, I took a lap dance, the dancer was nude and I ejaculated (I was wearning underwear + jean) within pants. NO fluid etc. from her side.
Well Here are my questions:
Scenario1:
1- What is the risk assesment for any STD etc? ...
I know hand job is not a risk even the hand is contaminated with menstrual blood (though I had no propoer hand job, means no ejaculation)? If genital (vaginal) stroke on one's belly (with no cuts) poses some danger?
I must mention that the bar-girl was very conscious about condome, which shows she must be practicing safe sex. (Although it seems stupid to mention it, as I did not have sex with her)
2- How can I overcome the feelings, which sometimes say I might have been caught some STD from one of the highest risky city? Is this sort of anxiety or some religious guilt, How can I overcome this? I am perfectly fine, but sometimes it destroy my routines!
scenario2:
1- What is the risk assessment?
Last question:
Do I need test?
I need mind satisfaction. I want to take test, however, I get scared and dont take it!
Best Regards!
John
A related discussion, After test was started.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Have whatever antibody test is offered by any clinic or doctor. Any and all HIV antibody tests available in all countries, including Thailand, are equally reliable. Do not spend extra money on a PCR test; an antibody test is fine.
Thanks for the answers, ..;)
Which test do I need pls?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the forum. Directly to your questions:
1) Sexual transmission requires a bare penis (i.e., without a condom) to enter another person's vagina, rectum, or mouth. Without that, HIV is not and cannot be transmitted. This is why you were strongly reassured, both by Dr. Bob at thebody.com and on MedHelp's HIV community forum, that you are not at risk for HIV from the events described.
2) This question reveals the underlying problem here. For some reason you have a grossly inflated perspective on the downsides of sex. You're a much better judge than I can be about the origin of those feelings, whether religous or otherwise. But this isn't a topic for this forum. We deal with HIV transmission risks and related topics, but not psychology. But my judgment is that this issue is a dominant problem in your life and that you would benefit from professional mental health evaluation to get to the bottom of it. I suggest it out of compassion, not criticism.
As for testing, you dont' need it, in view of the risks. However, you might do it anyway, simply for the additioal reassurance. I have no patience with not being tested for fear of the result. You have HIV or you don't -- it isn't the test that causes the problem. Research shows that even when people are positive, the relief of knowing is greater than the stress of not knowing and worrying about it.
I'll be happy to comment again if you decide to get tested and would like to post the result. Otherwise, I won't have any other advice.
Regards-- HHH, MD
1) Sexual transmission requires a bare penis (i.e., without a condom) to enter another person's vagina, rectum, or mouth. Without that, HIV is not and cannot be transmitted. This is why you were strongly reassured, both by Dr. Bob at thebody.com and on MedHelp's HIV community forum, that you are not at risk for HIV from the events described.
2) This question reveals the underlying problem here. For some reason you have a grossly inflated perspective on the downsides of sex. You're a much better judge than I can be about the origin of those feelings, whether religous or otherwise. But this isn't a topic for this forum. We deal with HIV transmission risks and related topics, but not psychology. But my judgment is that this issue is a dominant problem in your life and that you would benefit from professional mental health evaluation to get to the bottom of it. I suggest it out of compassion, not criticism.
As for testing, you dont' need it, in view of the risks. However, you might do it anyway, simply for the additioal reassurance. I have no patience with not being tested for fear of the result. You have HIV or you don't -- it isn't the test that causes the problem. Research shows that even when people are positive, the relief of knowing is greater than the stress of not knowing and worrying about it.
I'll be happy to comment again if you decide to get tested and would like to post the result. Otherwise, I won't have any other advice.
Regards-- HHH, MD
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