Welcome back to the forum. But based on both this question and the ones covered in a thread with Dr. Hook yesterday, it is apparent that you do not understand the basics of HIV transmission and did not understand, or did not believe, the advice he gave. Just as with the toilet splash, you now ask about another zero risk event. Please understand this: for HIV to be sexually transmitted requires a bare (no condom) penis to enter another person's vagina, rectum or (rarely) mouth. Period. Hand-genital contact, sexual secretions on skin, or indirect contact with a dildo as described here do not transmit the virus. Here is a link to a thread that explains the biology behind this fact (read the entire thread; the key information comes in follow-up comments):
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/1119533
1) No risk for either you or your wife.
2) Neither you nor your wife need HIV testing on account of these events.
3) There has never been a report of HIV being transmitted from these sorts of exposures, and undoubtely there never will be.
Please study, learn, and believe the facts about HIV transmission so you will not have to keep seeking reassurance after exposures with little or no risk. Also, please note the MedHelp rule about a maximum of 2 questions every 6 months on the professionally moderated forums. No more on this forum before next October.
HHH, MD