Scared $#$less

[USCGmil]

Hello, I am 26 male and I just got out of a three year relationship. My Ex girl has been tested for HIV twice in that time and came up neg. I have since then (while we were together) contracted Genital Warts, and Geo tongue. I do drink socially and eat spicy foods but i'm not sure if that is a concern. Also, I have heard that males never show symptoms of GW, but i have some warts. I am too scared to take the test for fear it will come up positive. I have OCD and even thinking about the test makes me sweat. I can't concentrate at work, and i'm always thinking about this. It's ruining my life. All my life HIV has been a scare for me, and now i really like this girl, but i don't want to do anything because I might be HIV pos and don't want to tell her. I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do. Please Help. Please...I just wish i don't have it and can get on with my life. Could i be one of the "unlucky ones" and have it, or am i just bugging out. I've only slept with 2 women in my life. Even though my ex tested Neg, could I still have it or something. Help ME. I know my exes past and it's not bad, and she was tested twice and came up negative. Also, once i was on recieving end of Fellatio and she had a tongue ring, and she switched out tongue ring in middle to put another one on.

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Geographic tongue -no relationship to HIV.  Please get the test.  EWH

[USCGmil]

Thanks for the help, One last question. I'm going to get the test and get this over with but...what about Geographic Tongue. A ring and loss of papules? Is that normal, or is it considered a sign of HIV

[Edward W Hook, MD]

I see this is a continuation of a conversation we began two days ago.  You have nothing to worry about.  You need to do the things I mentioned on your last post- get the HIV test and stop searching the internet.  Your fear of getting tested is groundless and just fuels your OCD.  I will provide you with a bit more information to your questions above:

1.  Whomever told you that men don't get genital warts is sadly mistaken.  They are very, very common and are not in any way a sign of HIV.  Perhaps you misread information indicating that HPV infection with the HPV types that cause PAP smear abnormalities in women do not cause visible genital warts- this is a valid generalization.  Men do, often, get visible genital warts however.  This is not something to worry about.  

2.  You are not HIV.  I know this.  When you get tested you will too.

3.  The oral sex, tongue ring issue is, similarly, not a concern.,  I said this before, now I have said it again.

EWH