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Should I be tested?
Good morning Dr,
I am having on and off anxiety about an exposure about a week ago. I have been reading alot from your Forums and from what I see, I think I may be low risk but I would like your advice either way as I am married and don't want to pass anything onto my wife.
I met with a couple a week ago and the vaginal sex was all protected with no issues. The only thing that has me concerned was the oral sex bit which was unprotected. They are a bisexual couple (both bi) however I am not, so the oral was only given to me by the female. She was alternating back and forward between sucking me and sucking him; I don't think that her partner (husband) ejaculated in her mouth or not, but I assume there would at least have been pre-cum from him or both of us in there.
My question is this; does this activity rate as a risk that I should be tested for whether it be HIV, STD's or both?
I have asked them since if they are clean and they told me they are. I just do not know for sure.
I did get a bit of a sore throat around day three after which is still with me, but I understand this is non specific and there is no muscle aches or rash to go with it.
I think that is about it and thank you very much for your time doc.
I am having on and off anxiety about an exposure about a week ago. I have been reading alot from your Forums and from what I see, I think I may be low risk but I would like your advice either way as I am married and don't want to pass anything onto my wife.
I met with a couple a week ago and the vaginal sex was all protected with no issues. The only thing that has me concerned was the oral sex bit which was unprotected. They are a bisexual couple (both bi) however I am not, so the oral was only given to me by the female. She was alternating back and forward between sucking me and sucking him; I don't think that her partner (husband) ejaculated in her mouth or not, but I assume there would at least have been pre-cum from him or both of us in there.
My question is this; does this activity rate as a risk that I should be tested for whether it be HIV, STD's or both?
I have asked them since if they are clean and they told me they are. I just do not know for sure.
I did get a bit of a sore throat around day three after which is still with me, but I understand this is non specific and there is no muscle aches or rash to go with it.
I think that is about it and thank you very much for your time doc.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
No, I see no need for HIV testing Earlier today there was another question on this forum from an Australian who had spoken to his local SHC. He had had unprotected vaginal sex, and the SHC told him he didn't need HIV testing. If that's true for vaginal, it is certainly true for oral sex -- which is essentially zero risk for HIV in any and all circumstances.
There are no known cases of people catching HIV because of exposure to a third party's sexual secretions in either the genital tract of mouth. Almost certainly the secretions would be too diluted to cause an infection in this situation.
Since the exposure was oral, most likely it is safe to have unprotected sex with your wife. If I were in your situation, I would do so. However, I do not guarantee you were not infected with one of the STDs mentioned above.
There are no known cases of people catching HIV because of exposure to a third party's sexual secretions in either the genital tract of mouth. Almost certainly the secretions would be too diluted to cause an infection in this situation.
Since the exposure was oral, most likely it is safe to have unprotected sex with your wife. If I were in your situation, I would do so. However, I do not guarantee you were not infected with one of the STDs mentioned above.
Thank you Dr,
I will get tested for the other STDs as you mentioned, but thank you for putting my mind at ease on the HIV issue.
Congratulations on a fantastic forum and rescource and I wish you the best with it.
I will get tested for the other STDs as you mentioned, but thank you for putting my mind at ease on the HIV issue.
Congratulations on a fantastic forum and rescource and I wish you the best with it.
Hi Dr,
Thank you for your quick response. I will not drag this out any longer as I see happens quite a bit. I am not in Sydney or Melbourne, but in a regional area so I don't have that access.
1. Do you think I need testing for HIV? (From your response, I assume I should for other STD's).
2. Secondly (I haven't found this situation anywhere else in the forum, which is why I ask) would the other persons pre-cum in the mouth pose a risk to myself or would that be deactivated by the saliva?
I suppose most improtantly, would I be safe to have sex with my wife from a HIV viewpoint?
Thank you Dr and I will try to make this the last entry.
Thank you for your quick response. I will not drag this out any longer as I see happens quite a bit. I am not in Sydney or Melbourne, but in a regional area so I don't have that access.
1. Do you think I need testing for HIV? (From your response, I assume I should for other STD's).
2. Secondly (I haven't found this situation anywhere else in the forum, which is why I ask) would the other persons pre-cum in the mouth pose a risk to myself or would that be deactivated by the saliva?
I suppose most improtantly, would I be safe to have sex with my wife from a HIV viewpoint?
Thank you Dr and I will try to make this the last entry.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
So I saw....
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the forum. I'll try to help.
Heterosexual HIV transmission is rare in Australia, especially among Australian nationals; what there is occurs primarily in immigrants, e.g. from Africa, and their partners. The chance your swinger couple (if you call them that) has HIV is extremely low. However, the risk of other STDs is higher, especially if they are in the habit of having such events without consistent condom use. Oral to penile STD transmission is a lot less frequent than for vaginal or anal sex, but certainly can occur -- especially for gonorrhea, nongonococcal urethritis (NGU), or herpes due to HSV-1, but there is little or no risk for syphilis, chlamydia, HIV, or hepatitis.
If you want to be absolutely certain all is well, take advantage of your nearest sexual health centre. As I have pointed out many times on this forum, the Australia network of SHCs is perhaps the best collection of STD/HIV clinics world wide -- and if you happen to be in Sydney or Melbourne, you have access to the best of the best. Wherever you are, you can rely on their professionalism, judgment, expertise, and advice.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
Heterosexual HIV transmission is rare in Australia, especially among Australian nationals; what there is occurs primarily in immigrants, e.g. from Africa, and their partners. The chance your swinger couple (if you call them that) has HIV is extremely low. However, the risk of other STDs is higher, especially if they are in the habit of having such events without consistent condom use. Oral to penile STD transmission is a lot less frequent than for vaginal or anal sex, but certainly can occur -- especially for gonorrhea, nongonococcal urethritis (NGU), or herpes due to HSV-1, but there is little or no risk for syphilis, chlamydia, HIV, or hepatitis.
If you want to be absolutely certain all is well, take advantage of your nearest sexual health centre. As I have pointed out many times on this forum, the Australia network of SHCs is perhaps the best collection of STD/HIV clinics world wide -- and if you happen to be in Sydney or Melbourne, you have access to the best of the best. Wherever you are, you can rely on their professionalism, judgment, expertise, and advice.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
I forgot to add which may also be relevant, I live in Australia.
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