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Your point of view please !

Hello

often ,the questions are about ARS symptoms and not about what if after let saids,,,7 years the hiv turn to aids in the body, how we will react...

i had in the pass 2-3 MSM , i was bottom and i always put condoms on but  hope the condoms didn’t come of...   the rest msm i had, was just oral with no protection.

The rest of my story was with girls, i meet on the bar, or in the internet,
One or two sexual non protected vaginal each. Maybe  6-7 yers ago. Usualy even with girls im protected.

The rest was some  girls  from the streets but never without condoms. ( i use to se blood but condom was on.)

I remember to red about sohoboric Dermatitis in Wikipedia ! Since then I’am paranoid because they said it’s the first stage of aids!!!So iam  looking myself in the mirror since 3 month now and somehow im seeing some sorted of dry skin and paranoid about that...maybe now hiv kill me slowly from inside...or maybe it will be soon and its the first sight like Wikipedia saying.

Can you tell me please if anyway i had  hiv and it was start to transform to aids,,, do you think i will be very sick ?

Do you think especially since my msm was protected and the rest was girls my risk is low anyway.

and usually when they talk about D.S it is after you know you are very very bad like you have no doubt about it !

Its is true hiv is very very hard from woman to man even if she is positive. Have you seen a lot.

and even MSN , if ever the condom broke once ( sory i didn’t ask status before) when you are the bottom, it is true after a single exposure anyway its kind of very unlucky or hard like once in 150 !

it is true the msm they catch it its often the guys they don’t protect them self  for long-time and had a lots of intercourse with a lots of mans ?

Do you think then a history of condoms breakage one time only and catching hiv with msm its very rare?
I think i am worry to much and I’m imagining hiv is everywhere it is possible?

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239123 tn?1267647614
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Good choice.  Also have an HIV test.  Consider printing out this thread and discuss it with your therapist.  I'll bet s/he will agree with all I have said.
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thank you so much,

i will continue to see my therapist for my obsession and irrational fears.

You are a nice man beacause you dont want us to go deep in this anxietes !

thank you
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239123 tn?1267647614
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
I agree your risk is very low.  Nobody can ever say for sure someone's risk for sexually acquired HIV is zero, unless they are a virgin.  On an exposure-by-exposure basis, I agree with what you were informed by the Montreal clinic, i.e. each exposure seems to be zero risk.

1,2) It is true HIV is easier to treat and survival is much better.

3) When you are tested, almost certainly the result will be negative.

4) Yes, you are far too worried about HIV than you should be.

As for having the "courage" to test, it isn't the test result that gives someone the virus.  You have it or you don't; and if you do, your survival depends on knowing.  In addition, when someone is fearful of testing, almost always they are relieved when they finally do it, even if the result is positive; the anxiety from not knowing is worse than the bad news of a positive result.  Therefore, I have absolutely no patience with not getting tested for fear of the result.  Just do it.  It will be negative.

Without testing, continuing a conversation here is only going to sustain your anxiety about it, and I will not permit it.  Any more comments on this thread, other than your test result, will be deleted without reply.
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Iam sad because i know, like most of  the people on this forum, I tried to have your help.
Last week i start with a therapist to help me with my anxieties.
My second appointment is this Friday.  Im   working my   obsessions  about all kind of diseases. It take times !

When i called the clinic l’actuel in Montreal ( the best hiv Clinique in Montreal with Rejean Thomas  doctor,,,,,) I  spoke with a nurse ( guy)  who working there for a lots of years,  and saw a lot of patients .  I told him the same things i told you about me sex story.

He said to me:   Your 3-4 msm was protected no risk.
Msm oral without protection Passive or active: no risk
The streets girls was always protected:     no risk
And,  he ask me about the 3-4 girls i meet on the internet or in the bar in Montreal  and he ask me  if they where African .
I said no !

He told me:   you are not at risk for hiv.  (even my 4-5 girls one or two sex night each without protection...)

I think that nurse saw a lot and he talk to me beside the medias and beside the misinformation about the hiv. Hiv souds not so easy to transmit from girls to man in Canada. Otherwise people will be very sick in 2011 by now on the community of hetero..

1 -  it is true since the meds help since 1996, hiv its slower to give compare with the 80s in Canada and the state because a lot of people are undetectable.

2 Are you agreeing with this Doctor.
3-So if you are  agree with this, and i take my courage and go for the test do you think i have a big big chance it will be negative with the kind exposure i had ?

4- Do you think about my story i told you and the risk i took, im worry to much about hiv
    like a kind of disproportional fear compare with the majority of people.
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239123 tn?1267647614
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the forum.  I'll try to help.  I read your discussion on the community forum.  It is true that the way to know (the only way) whether or not you have HIV is to be tested.  Based on your sexual history, almost certainly your test will be negative.

Your next to last paragraph is exactly right.  Most people with HIV have had far riskier sex lives than yours.  Among MSM, most HIV infections occur in men who have had unprotected anal sex with 100 or more partners; and among heterosexuals, in the spouses or other long-term partners (often for many years) of infected persons.

As for your symptoms, like seborrheic dermatitis, it really is meaningless.  Yes, seb derm is more common in people with HIV/AIDS.  But still, out of all people with seb derm, the vast majority don't have HIV.

But there is no point in speculating or remaining anxious about it.  I cannot say for sure whether or not you are infected, only that the chance is low.  As Teak and others told you, the way to know is to be tested.  Please get tested, then return with a comment to tell me the result.  But there is no point in additional comments or discussion until then.

Regards--  HHH, MD
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