Welcome to the HIV forum. You had accurate responses in the community forum: your negative test result is reliable. Here is why:
In the US, all diagnostic tests require approval by the Food and Drug Adminstration (FDA), which in turn requires test manufacturers and/or companies to demonstrate the tests' accuracy when used as designed, under "real world" conditions. For a home based test, this means collection at home and shipment of specimens to the lab under all anticipated circumstances -- i.e. despite delays in shipment, unusually hot or cold temperatures, and so on. In other words, the test would not be on the market at all if it were not stable, and the results reliable, in extreme cold, heat, prolonged delays in shipment, etc.
From the discussion on the community forum, it appears you also wonder whether you were tested too soon after your exposure. You were not. Although official information from many test manufacturers and various public health agencies recommends testing at 3 month (12-13 weeks), that's an overly conservative interval. In fact, antibody testing is reliable any time after 6-8 weeks. Here is a thread that explains this in more detail:
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV-Prevention/-A-Question-on-Testing/show/1347755
So the bottom line is that you can rely 100% on your negative HIV test result. You don't have it.
I hope this helps. Best wishes--- HHH, MD