I am Positive..now what?

[septy]

I have had four tests for HIV in last one month. The results are:
Test 1: MEIA: Result: Reactive (s/co ratio=5.28)
Test 2: Immunochromatography: Result: Not Reactive
Test 3: ELFA: Non Reactive
Test 4: Western Blot: Poistive
The pathologist concluded I am HIV positive. I have come out of initial shock and agony and with all my strength I want to fight it and want to live healthy as long as possible. I am 48 years male.
Kindly suggest what I should do now?

[Teak]

There is no way a Immunochromatography would be negative if you had a 5.28 on a MEIA. See an ID doctor and take the test result with you.

[JustMeJack]

Hello septy,
  I am 47 and have been living with this since 2001. Try the best that you can to go about your daily life. Take your medications, see your doctor, go to a support group. Don't worry about what others think of you. Just don't give up. Take Care!!!

[septy]

Dear Teak,
I live in Indonesia and I suspect there can be error in testing. I have tested for HIV for my wife also and Thanks God she is Negative. (eventhough unknowingly I had been having unprotected Sex with her all times, which I have stopped now). My CD4 count is 663 and 35% of Total Lymphocytes. Mt Viral Load PCR result will come on Monday. I am confused as how two HIV antibody tests are positive and two Negative!!!!!

[septy]

Hi JustMeJack,
Thanks for your word of encouragement.I promise I won't give up and fight this bloody tiny creature inside my body and won't let it spoil my life.
Thanks

[billgonz1]

Hi ,I have had HIV since june 84 . The same month the test came out . I have never been sick . My lover of 21 years . Has been pos. 22 years He has never been sick . You have to learn to live in the now . I've found most of the things i worry about never happen . You can't live in the past . The past causes anger . The future causes stress and worry . You will get to a place in the future .Where it is just a part of your life . You will love things more deeply .Go ahead and buy a house ect. I have one only because it is cheaper to buy than rent . I never thought i would live long enough to pay it off . But, guess what I just got it paid off . And i'm still not sick . If you go on meds. don't miss a dose . You virus will mutate . each time you change meds. you go up a level on the chart and get more side effects. our t-cells are over 700 viral load 0  Good luck Bill

[dominique533]

I have been reading many comments on this forum and I hope I can get some answers. at the beginning of June 2009 I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend who I had met on line. We chatted for almost a month and when we met in June, we really clicked and both fell in love, he is 48 and am 42. His kids are 16 and 23 but they live with their mother. My kids are much younger and leave with  me since my husband passed away 2 years ago. I have a great job and I thought he was ok from what he presented on line. He is white am black and he was the first guy i decided to date since my husband passed away and I found him to be the most comforing and understanding person. The last thing on my mind was to have a test or proetcetd sex! However 2 weeks after meeting  him and having sex, I met his family for lunch and his father who gets along with me very well warned me not to spoil my boyfriend and most importantly not to have sex with him because he was "sick".I was felt sick and wanted to die because we had already had unprotected sex, alot of it! The next day we went for a rapid test. mine was negative his inconlclusive. I have always been negative and faithful to my late husband. The doctor asked my boyfriend to take another test and 4 days later it was confirmed as positive.I immediately started the post exposure treatment which I did not think would work but it gave me some peace of mind.I only completed  the PEP on 28th July. I have had 2 more tests and both were negative. While taking PEP we continued to have protected sex but I would feel very bad afterwards and sometimes could not even do it. I love him so much and want to be there for him but lately I am finding it very hard, I do not want to have even protected sex . I am very angry  because I feel that he lied to me .I am learning now the kind of lifestyle he led before turning to GOD.I have started counselling because I am so confused. I am not sure that I am really negative until after 3 months(?).He has started counselling but not ARVs
(he cannot afford them, part time job, no medical insurance etc) although his doctor says he should since his cd4 count is 250.  For the last 2 weeks he has developed this flu and cough and I keep thinking he now has developed AIDS. I had to take him to hospital and pay his hospital bill because he could not afford it! I am so confused because a part of me wants to really be with him and another part says run. I have told him I dont want to see him for a while so that I  can sort out my mind but I feel so bad because deep down I care about him. he has told his family but I do not want to share with anyone else. How are others coping. sometimes I hear about magnetic couples being together for years.How do the -ve partners cope are they not scared of the  high chances of infection, please help. confused dominique

[Teak]

This is a forum for individuals who are HIV positive or have AIDS to connect and support each other. Please post in the HIV Prevention forum.