To teak and others Please help difficulty coping in HIV+ relationship

[lady316]

Hi all

I am very thankful I found this website. I posted a few weeks ago after meeting someone who is HIV+ I am HIV-. He has all the qualities I have been looking for in a partner. We have been together for a month.



Last weekend we were both drunk one evening we engaged in foreplay no sexual intercourse. I did kiss lick around his gentials gave an hand job and play with my own gentials. He kissed around my gentials, fingered vagina and anus bite my nipples etc. We didn't kiss open mouth as he refuses to do this. The next day he was very upset and worried he is really anxious about passing the infection to me. I was begining to settle after the shock of knowing his anxiety has now made me feel more worry. His viral count is undetectable. In addition to this a family member from his side asked me if I was sure I wanted to take on everything, I expect he was asked too.

He is happy that I have been seaching for information on the net however he finds it difficult to do this himself.   Please can you advise on the risks etc and I wonder if you have any information on the stats of HIV male being passed  to HIV female so that I can print and show him.

Please help I have not felt so happy with with someone for a very long time. We are both pass our 40's

[Teak]

Go with him to his next Infectious Doctor's appointment. Write down all the questions you would like answered.

[lady316]

Thank you


I will do that he has said I can go, he asked the doctor last time he was there. The only problem is he went last week so the next one isn't for two months now which can seem like a long time when waiting for answers.

[JustMeJack]

That's good advise Teak. The doctor will be able to answer these questions for you lady316. There are many POS/NEG couples out there. No reason you folks can't make this work. In the meantime you can also contact "The National AIDS Hotline"
1-800-CDC-INFO (1-800-232-4636) Hours: 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Have a good day! Jack

[Teak]

I don't recommend anyone calling the Hotlines. Those numbers are answered by less qualified persons than yourself. They read from a book, sheets or a screen which most of the time is not kept up to date with the proper or correct information.