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scared about a possible hiv exposure! no other forums have answered my question yet!
Dear Doctors,
On the night of my senior prom about a month and a half ago, my boyfriend and I came very close to having sex. We would have except it was my first time and he could not even come close to being able to penetrate me. He only entered literally about an inch for about 30 seconds and did not ejaculate at all that whole night. The scary part about this is,he did not use protection. We dated for four years and had only been with eachother (i thought!) so i didn't think anything of it. Well, I found out later that during a time we were broken up, he had actually slept with two other girls (who were both known for sleeping around). He has not been tested and I don't know if those other girls have been either. I am so scared that if one of the girls did have HIV that he could have passed it to me! I plan on getting tested, but my "window period" is not even close to being up and in the meantime I would like to be emotionally prepared. Could you please tell me your opinion about whether that night put me at great risk even though he never ejaculated AT ALL during that night and wasn't even able to go inside me? I know now that I cannot ever trust that someone is "safe" unless I have personally seen their results, and that I should either not have sex at all, or if I do, always use protection...but am i at great risk of contracting HIV from this present incident? Please, please answer. I would appreciate it so much. I have already posted the same question on several other forums and it has yet to be answered!
Thanks for you time and help!
scared first timer
On the night of my senior prom about a month and a half ago, my boyfriend and I came very close to having sex. We would have except it was my first time and he could not even come close to being able to penetrate me. He only entered literally about an inch for about 30 seconds and did not ejaculate at all that whole night. The scary part about this is,he did not use protection. We dated for four years and had only been with eachother (i thought!) so i didn't think anything of it. Well, I found out later that during a time we were broken up, he had actually slept with two other girls (who were both known for sleeping around). He has not been tested and I don't know if those other girls have been either. I am so scared that if one of the girls did have HIV that he could have passed it to me! I plan on getting tested, but my "window period" is not even close to being up and in the meantime I would like to be emotionally prepared. Could you please tell me your opinion about whether that night put me at great risk even though he never ejaculated AT ALL during that night and wasn't even able to go inside me? I know now that I cannot ever trust that someone is "safe" unless I have personally seen their results, and that I should either not have sex at all, or if I do, always use protection...but am i at great risk of contracting HIV from this present incident? Please, please answer. I would appreciate it so much. I have already posted the same question on several other forums and it has yet to be answered!
Thanks for you time and help!
scared first timer
yes i know michael. i don't know that he doesn't have it. i am saying, if he does have it, what are my chances in that situation. pre-*** carries the virus too though, and there was that.
You have to understand something about hiv/aids. If your boyfriend doesn't have hiv/aids than he can't give it to you. If he didn't penetrate you and he didn't *** than there is zero chance of get hiv, but he would have to have the disease to give it to you in the first place.
Post wherever you want. Teak is not a moderator (which drives him crazy) and cannot dictate to you.
You will be fine, no doubt. But maybe post to the true hiv transmission expert Dr. HHH in his forum for a correct and accurate answer.
You will be fine, no doubt. But maybe post to the true hiv transmission expert Dr. HHH in his forum for a correct and accurate answer.
either the doctor-moderated HIV Prevention/Safe Sex Forum, which has a small fee, or in the unmoderated HIV Support forum, where you won't get an answer from a doctor but it's free and a few people in there really know their stuff.
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