Anxieties creeping back again...at 4 month, please help.

Hi just saw a post from someone on the prevention forum that their LabCorp Panel 083824 came back positive and Western Blot indeterminate.  I got scared again because my tests were the exact same one at 5 and 12.5 weeks, both non-reactive.  My general doctor recommended me to test at 6 months, two weeks ago I went to see a HIV specialist in the Castro district here in San Francisco with Dr. John Nienow, MD.  He said i don't need 6 month test, and the only reason for that test would be for a peace of mind and a U.S. CDC certified woohoo... one more month has gone by since my 88 day negative result and I'm still worried about possible infection, or should I do a different test and not using LabCorp for my final 6 month test...Please help to ease my mind again. Thank you.

[tensed19]

No test required , 3 months is conclusive .. I too stopped testing

[tensed19]

I mean I too stopped testing after I got conclusive report... Chill

[Nomoreanxieties]

Hi, thanks for the info, why is my general doctor still saying I do need 6 months test. He also replied that nothing is 100% but blood test at 3 month and again at 6 month is very reassurering except for very extreme cases.  I don't understand why he saying something like that and why I need 6 months test...

[Apollo1971]

I think you should find a better doctor, unless your making this up. The cdc guidelines since 2004 have made it clear a 3 month test in conclusive

[Nomoreanxieties]

I swear to god I am not making this up, I saved his email response, I will paste on here for you to see:

"Not a problem.  In answer to your question, we can never say 100%, but generally a neg. test at 3 months and again at 6 months is very reassuring and except in extremely rare cases, generally negative after 6 months with the blood work is considered negative.  I’d wait until 3 months if it’s all the same to you. If you’re anxious and can’t wait another week, the 12 week mark is also used with low false negative rates as this link discusses.

http://www.freehealthquest.com/2011/02/hiv-testing-timeline-how-soon-you.html


Let me know if you have questions about this.

[Nomoreanxieties]

I also saved all the lab reports for my references, in case something happens, I can have some records to rely on.

[Nomoreanxieties]

LabCorp Panel 083824 that's the test I took. I am thinking about taking a different test at 6 month mark.

[Apollo1971]

You have been told by teak, who is very qualifed on hiv and testing that your test is approved and you dont have hiv and no more testing is required fact.

You havd also posted this over and over again and get the same answers, so im not sure why your unable to deal with these very simple facts that have been given to you buds?

You can keep testing to the cows come home, but nothing is going to change.

Maybe your better off dealing with mental issue of why you cannot accept this? Ie, did you cheat on your partner..

[Nomoreanxieties]

Yes, I think you nail it on the head. I did cheat on my wife, with a prostitute, I my thoughts are that my life should be punished with HIV because of my action. I have a 1 and half year old daughter and my wife is pregnant with our second child.  My incident occurred after she become pregnant and I have not had any sexual contacts with her since my exposure. I love my wife dearly and would die for her, thinking about myself is one thing, thinking that I might transmit any diseases to my wife and kids are unbearable.  I hope you understand my feelings...I want to love my wife and kids for the rest of my life.  I'm also in the process of quitting smoking, one month smoke free now...I want to see my kids grow older and be a responsible husband and father.

[Apollo1971]

of course i understand, its a typical responce on this forum. The lack of risk or a risk with a negative results seldom offers the poster the confidence they need as they are blinded by pure guilt and common sence and logic go our of the window.

Look, if their was any chance you had hiv you would be told by teak, no messing at all.. Ok?

But thats not the issue here its guilt. That will take you time to get over. How long is up to you, but we all make mistakes in life and its a case of forgetting about it and doing the best you can for your family. Whilst your still in this frame of mind you cant be the husband and father you want to be.

Just give it a little time, it may take weeks but the guilt will fade and so will the fear if hiv. You had a scare, you mind is racing but it will stop once you leave the hiv forum and focus on your family and put this in the past where it belongs mate.

Best advise now is to just focus on xmas with your family. You cannot give your wife somthing you dont have and guilt is not a reason to belive anything other than the evidence you dont have hiv.  stop beating yourself now, calm down and start living your life again and this will pass like waters in a river...

[Nomoreanxieties]

You are a wonderful and understanding man apollo, I appreciate your comments, I will try to focus on work and family again. I'm not sure how long it will take but I will definitely try to move on.

[Apollo1971]

no problem chap, start living again, start planning xmas and before you know it, this will be nothing but a blip.

Take care :-)