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I CANT TAKE IT

I am scared, alone, and anxiety about hiv.
I married but had a fight and went to Gentleman's club that has a bad rap Oct 11th.   There a girl stripper came up and came onto me, I later on took her to a place where we had oral sex.  I finished in her mouth while I was going down on her.  The exp lasted about 20min until we had no condoms so no vag/nal sex was performed.
I want to go back to intimate relations with my wife who doesn't know of this encounter.  I hear so many stories about oral sex and possible exposures so that drive up anxiety levels.
I finally got the stomach and went and got a PCR DNA test at 2 weeks which was NEG.  The stripper and I both got tested on 41 days which was NEG.  Today was 9 weeks and I tested NEG again as well.
You guys are great, please get me the straight advice even if it is bad news.
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Reread my replies. You don't have HIV. No more comments- this thread is closed.

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10 week test came back NEG via finger ***** Clearview.

I think I can close this chapter now?
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The combination of tests that you took was 100% accurate- You aren't going to gain anything by additional testing at this point. Your tests proved that you are HIV negative, therefore any additional tests will also be negative. The only thing that further testing will do for you is fuel your anxiety.
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I know Joggen, it is hard to accept that fact sometimes.  What is even harder is I cannot talk to anyone about this issue like my wife.
I feel like a 10 week test would be a concrete evidence that I was not infected but than I thought the same with the PCr test and my 4 / 6 / 8 week test too.
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Everything shows that you weren't infected- especially the fact that you never had a risk in the first place. Please move on.
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I just want to understand this:
Her test at 7 weeks basically proves she was NEG, but the small chance that she was infected after the 7 weeks my tests both PCR 14 days and 9 week antibody tests show that I was not infected?
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Yes, I agree. You did nothing to jeopardize your negative serostatus and your tests confirmed that. Please accept that you are HIV NEGATIVE, stop testing, and put this in the past where it belongs.
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Joggen you agree?
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Trust me, I know all about the anxiety associated with the thought of having contracted HIV. That said, please re-read my initial post. Personally, had I simply had oral sex with someone, I would not have tested at all, because there is no appreciable risk of contracting HIV associated with this activity.

Given that, what do you suppose my answer to you is going to be regarding your last post :-)? Yes, I would say you do not have HIV, and thus do not need to test any longer!
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I paid her to get tested with me as well.

SO with my PCR test at 14 days and 9 weeks antibody rapid test I am ok>?
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You will not test positive, and thus, there is no reason for you to test. I urge anyone who is reading this to NOT get a PCR DNA test, at is not a *diagnostic* test, and false positives are not unheard of.

That said, let's address your specific situation. Oral sex is not only not an efficient means of HIV transmission, it doesn't appear to happen at all. In other words, oral sex is not considered a "risky" activity in terms of HIV. And that's the simple truth. Thus, your test was unnecessary, as would be any further testing based on this incident.

So, in short: you don't have to worry about HIV in this circumstance. That said, I am curious how you convinced the stripper to go get HIV tested with you. That is, from what I read, pretty uncommon. In any event, you did, and she also tested negative.
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Joggen?  Moderator what do you tinhk?
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I feel your Pain. I'm going through a similar experience as we speak your not alone!
After I spoke to my wife about the infidelity it has help with to be able to share my worried thoughts.

We need to be strong and rational with our thinking.

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