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Please help. Constant fear is killing me now
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Please help. Constant fear is killing me now

Hi, I have been in constant fear for infection of HIV for a few days now. Put it short, I was a bit curious about my sexual identity. So I met a guy online, and we kissed, open mouth, tongue kiss, no throat, for a few times, and I gave him a hand job with oil. Afterwards he cleaned up. I touched his penis again with my fingers. There was some siemen I think. I sucked a few times his nipples. Am I at risk of getting infected? I am not sure his HIV status and then I asked him after the hand job and he told me that he tested a while ago and was negative. However, somehow I do not trust him. Am I at risk here? Should I wait 6 weeks and get tested? There are some caluses on my hand and the new skin is replacing the old so there is some 'cut'? I am not sure. He brushed his teeth before we kiss and I am not sure if that is risky? might contains some blood? Please help. The fear is so overwhelming..
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Hiya,, well it's an easy answer buddy. You no risk at all in a million years of HIV. You need to have unprotected sex to be at risk which you didn't. Kissing is also not a risk even if they have just cleaned their teeth... And before you start saying blood... A study was done with 5000 couples where one person was HIV positive the other negative. They had oral sex etc but protected sex and of course I'm sure they kissed after cleaning their teeth, and nor one couple gave their partner HIV.

So it's quiet clear you had nothing to worry about. Hope that helps, and no you don't need to test either
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hi, thanks. What about hand job? I gathered that if there is a small cut there is potential risk? what does it mean by cut?
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Nope, never ever will it be a risk
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so i can move along? I did make an appintment with my GP for next week. Do you think I should request a HIV antibody test?
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Yes you can certainly move on you had no risk which I keep saying, so no you don't need a HIV test at all.

Buddy, please understand the advice and just enjoy life, your worrying about nothing and really it's quite sad to be so concerned about so little. As long as you use condoms for sex then you won't be at risk. Also take in mind only 1% of the population have HIV and the odds your even going to have sex with a HIV positive person is so low anyway..
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thanks for your reply. what worries me about is the calluses. one is "cut" (wounded? or borken, foirgive about my english). and he ejaculated in my hand and i recalled tonight that I kept rubbing his penis for a while. There is a great chance his siemen may touch the wounded calluses. is it a possible infection channel?
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I MEAN I KEPT RUBBING HIS PENIS BEFORE HE CLEANED UP
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1629919_tn?1407244906
Still no risk. Nothing you will add will make it risk. It's just not going to happen.

My last post. Their has never ever ever been one case of anyone getting HIV from what you did. Take in mind how many hand jobs are given every day !!!

Please understand this and stop worrying over nothing.
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Hi, I think I have probably described it wrongly because of my English. The callus was not trimmed. I used the finger clipper to remove the torn part (http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/683/20111208162910.jpg/, lookjs more like this. This was taken this Monday and last week it was smaller). Is it an open wound, cut or just new skin?
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hi guys
please help me ,i am very worried and anxious, i couldn't sleep yesterday i had sex with my new boy friend,although he used condom but during our annal sex, suddenly it bleed a little and no vaginal or annal entry occurred and condom was not burst or break but since he touched the condom by his hand i am so much worried may be the condom was infected and this could put me in risk,he said he is not infected by HIV but i am not sure because he was very scared by that bleeding that happened to me,although it was a little blood, meanwhile we kissed long time each other?am i infected??help me please i dont know what to do?
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I think I have to explain more,if we suppose he is infected by HIV, and we have used condom,but he touched the condom by his hand in order to fix it better,may be the condom was infected,and during to try annal sex that short contact to blood without any entry may cause to infect me.is it possible? what do you mean by At no time did you have an exposure?thank you
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